Zvemukati
- Kugona dissonance kunogona kukanganisa hukama hwehukama?
- Muhukama hweplonic
- Muhukama hwemhuri
- Mukudanana
- Saka zvinobatsira sei kana kukuvadza hukama?
Vazhinji vedu tinofanira kunge takasangana nemamiriro ezvinhu apo chokwadi chedu chinopesana nezvatinotarisira muhupenyu. Kunetsana kwakadai kunoita kuti tirege kugadzikana uye nekudaro tinokanganisa nekugamuchira chokwadi chatisina kubvumirana nacho kana kushandura zvatinotenda isu pachedu.
Semuenzaniso, John Doe anogona kushandisa zvinodhaka kunyange zvazvo achitenda zvakasimba kuti kushandisa zvinodhaka kwakaipa. Nekuda kwekusaenderana pakati pezvaanoona nezviito, anotambura mukati. Kuti aderedze kusagadzikana kwepfungwa, anogona kusarudza pakati pesarudzo mbiri dzinotevera:
- Reka kushandisa zvinodhaka nekuti zvinopesana nekutenda kwake, kana
- Siya pfungwa yekuti kushandisa zvinodhaka hazvina kushata zvachose.
Mamiriro ezvinhu akadaro anogona kuunza kusagadzikana kwepfungwa apo munhu anoedza kupembedza zviito zvake. Iyi mamiriro ezvinhu ndidzo hwaro hwedzidziso inonzi yekuziva dissonance yakatsanangurwa nachiremba wezvepfungwa Leon Festinger muna 1957.
Kugona dissonance kunogona kukanganisa hukama hwehukama?
Kufungisisa kusagadzikana kunoitika mune angangoita ese marudzi ehukama hwevanhu- ingave iri yemhuri, yerudo, kana platonic.
Zvinogona kukanganisa maitiro atinoita kana maitiro edu, uye nekuenderera mberi kutora hukama hwedu munzira yakatsauka inogona kana kusave noutano.
Muhukama hweplonic
Kana vanhu vakasabvumirana pane chimwe chinhu, kunyangwe vangave padhuze sei, kushushikana kunomuka. Inotyisidzira runyararo rwiyo rwehukama hwavo. Kugadzirisa kusagadzikana, mumwe wemapato akabatanidzwa anosarudza kufuratira maonero emumwe kana zviito zvekuchengetedza kusagadzikana.
Semuenzaniso, Jane naBianca vanga vari shamwari dzepamwoyo kubvira pre-chikoro. Mushure mekuenda kwavo vakaparadzana kukoreji, hushamwari hwavo hwakamomoterwa nekuda kwemaonero avo anopikisa ezvematongerwo enyika. Bianca, semunhu anoshuvira kubatana nerunyararo, anofunga kurega kumisidzana neshamwari yake pazvinhu zvematongerwo enyika. Pane kudaro, anozvimisikidza kutsigira uye kukurudzira Jane mumamiriro ezvinhu mune zvematongerwo enyika.
Mumwe muenzaniso, Mike inyanzvi yekutsvagira anotenda zvine mutsindo mukodzero dzevanhu asi asingatendi mukuuraya. Kana mutariri wake anoremekedzwa achisarudza euthanasia kuti apedze kurwadziwa nekenza, Mike anopinda nepfungwa. Kuti agadzikise kushushikana kwake, anogadzirisa maonero ake euthanasia, achipembedza kuti zviri nani kumutariri wake, uye ikodzero yake kuzviita, mushure mezvose.
Muhukama hwemhuri
Mhuri yega yega inotarisana nemugove wayo wakasarudzika wematambudziko.
Kunyangwe kunetsana kuripo pakati pevabereki kana pakati pemubereki nemwana, mumwe wevanhu vanobatanidzwa anogona kusarudza kugadzirisa kuti matambudziko agadziriswe.
Semuenzaniso, amai vane tsika vanopesana nehukama hweungochani vanodzidza kuti mwanakomana wavo anodikanwa ngochani. Kuchengetedza kuenderana kwake kwemukati, anogona nemaune kuregeredza chokwadi chekuti mwanakomana wake ungochani. Neimwe nzira, anogona kuchinja maonero ake nezveungochani kuti agamuchire chokwadi nezvebonde remwanakomana wake.
Mukudanana
Imwe yema tie-ins akajairika uko dissonance yekuziva inoitika iri muhukama hwepabonde, kunyanya ihwo hunotyisa kana kushungurudza - panyama kana nemanzwiro.
Kune rimwe divi kurambana, kusavimbika, nekushungurudza zvinogona kunge zviri zvibodzwa zvekuyedza kugadzirisa dissonance yekuziva, nepo kune rumwe rutivi ruregerero, kuramba, kana chokwadi chinosarudzika inogona kunge iri mimwe mhedzisiro.
Semuenzaniso, Jack naCarrie vanga vachidanana kwemwedzi mitanhatu yadarika. Vari kunakidzwa nechikamu chavo chemuchato, vachifunga kuti vanoziva zvese zviripo nezve mumwe nemumwe. Zvisinei, Jack asingatarisiri anorova Carrie panguva yekurwa.
Izvi zvinoguma nekuziva dissonance muCarrie sekuona kwake kweumwe wake iye zvino kunetsana nezviito zvake zvisingadiwe. Iye anoziva kuti anoda Jack, asi kwete zviito zvake. Saka ane nzira dzinosvika mbiri dzekugadzirisa kushushikana kwepfungwa. Anogona kupedza hukama hwavo kana kururamisa hunhu hwaJack hwekushusha se'imwe-nguva-chinhu '.
Kunyangwe isu tichigona kuwana mienzaniso yakafanana uye toenda pane ad nauseum, iyi mifanidzo iri pamusoro iyi yakakwana kuti titore pfungwa yekuti inowanzoenda sei.
Saka zvinobatsira sei kana kukuvadza hukama?
Tinogona kugumisa kuti dissonance yekuziva ndeye mamiriro apo iwe unofunga kururamisa zviito zvako kana zviito zvevamwe kuitira kuti kunetsana kwako kwemukati kuderedzwa zvakanyanya.
Sezvo chirevo chichienda, zvese zvine zvakashata uye zvakanaka divi.
Kufunga dissonance kunogona kukuvadza kana kukubatsira iwe, zvingave zviri zvega kana zvevamwe. Zvichienderana nesarudzo yako, unogona kukura kana kuderera semunhu nekuda kwezvimwe zvipingamupinyi nezvipingamupinyi muhupenyu. Inogona kusimbisa kana kudimbura hukama hwako nevamwe. Izvo zvinogona zvakare kubatsira iwe kuti unzwisise pachako 'zvirinani kana kusava nehanya.