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- Chii chinonzi ngochani
- Maitiro ekuona kana iwe uri murume chaiyeiye ngochani
- Sapiosexual zvinoreva uye mararamiro
Mhinduro yakapusa ingave, kana iwe usingazive zvinorehwa nevarume vanoita zvebonde, saka aiwa hausi iwe. Kana iwe uchizviziva, saka pamwe uri iwe. Sekureva kweduramazwi reCambridge, murume kana mukadzi anokwezva kune ungwaru (kana zvakanyanya, vanhu vakangwara).
Tsananguro yevanhurume nevanhukadzi yakapihwa muurbandictionary.com ine zvakati wandei, ichiti ivo ngochani vanofunga huchenjeri hwemunhu sehunhu hwavo hunokwezva zvichienzaniswa nezvimwe zvakaita sehunhu hwepanyama.
Kuti zvirambe zviri nyore, murume kana mukadzi anokwezva kune vakangwara pamusoro pezvimwe zvinhu.
Chii chinonzi ngochani
Iko kukwezva kwepabonde kusarerekera pabonde. Ngochani vanokwezva pabonde nevanhu vakangwara, vakangwara uye vakanaka kutaura. Ngochani hadzifanirwe kuve dzakangwara kana dzakangwara vanhu pachavo, chakakosha ndechekuti vanozviona zvichikurudzira pabonde kunzwa mumwe munhu ane ruzivo achitaura navo.
Kune zvakawanda zvevanyepedzeri venhema vanoda kuoneka ivo vakangwara nekugadzira hukama hwepedyo nevamwe vanhu vakangwara. Hazvina kusiyana neanochera goridhe uyo anoda kuratidzika seakapfuma nekubatanidzwa uye kurara nemunhu akapfuma.
Ruzivo rwemunhu hachisiwo chimwe chinhu chaunosvika pakuona, nekungovatarisa. Kusiyana nevanhu vanokwezvwa nekunakirwa kwakanaka, biceps hombe, uye mota dzinodhura, iko kukwezva kunoratidzira nekungotarisa munhu pasina chero chimiro chekubatana kwakasimba. Ngochani hadzifarirewo chidimbu chepepa chinoratidza kuwana dzidzo, mamakisi, kana mimwe mikombe (kunyangwe mubairo weNobel). Ivo vanonzwa kukwezva kana ivo vakakurudzirwa zvakanangana sekuteerera kune hurukuro, hurukuro, kana kuverenga bhuku.
Vanhu vazhinji vanoziva sevane ngochani, asi muchokwadi, ivo vanongoda kudzidza. Vanofarira dzimwe nyaya uye vanonzwa kufara uye kunyange kumutswa pavanonzwa mumwe munhu achikurukura misoro iyoyo.
Ivo vechokwadi ngochani vanodzosera kufarira kwavo zvakanyanya kumunhu pane kune izvo zviri mukati mehuropi hwavo mushure menguva diki diki kana vachinge varatidzira hunyanzvi hwavo mune chero nyaya.
Maitiro ekuona kana iwe uri murume chaiyeiye ngochani
Kana iwe uchikwezva pabonde kumudzidzisi akashata mudzidzisi uyo ari nyanzvi pachinhu chaunovenga, saka uri chokwadi sapiosexual. Nekudaro, sezvinhu zvese, kune akasiyana mamiriro ezve mamiriro uye hupombwe hausi izvo. Kana isu tikatarisa maitiro atinotsanangudza murume nemurume, ndepaya panenge paine kukwezva kwepanyama uye kwepabonde kumudzidzisi zvinopesana nechidzidzo chakadzidzwa.
Kune nyonganiso kana zvasvika kune vanoita bonde, epistemophiles, uye sophophiles. Nepo vamwe vaviri vari avo vane rudo rwakadzama rwezivo nekudzidza, murume kana mukadzi anonzwa kukwezva kune mumwe munhu akangwara.
Epistemophiles, semuenzaniso, vanhu vanoda ruzivo pachavo. Mukuedza kuwana ruzivo, ivo vanopedza yakawanda yenguva yavo kudzidza. Sophophiles vanhu vanofarira kudzidza, ruzivo haruna basa, chiito chekudzidza pachako chavanowana chinonakidza uye chinodhakwa.
Vazhinji vanhu vanozivisa sevane ngochani vari epistemophiles kana sophophiles. Ivo vaizonzwa kukwezva kwechisikigo kune vamwe vanhu vakangwara nekuda kwerudo rwavo ruzivo uye / kana kudzidza.
Ngochani dzakasiyana. Haisi iyo yakasimudzirwa manzwiro mushure mekudyidzana nemumwe munhu pane imwechete wavelength uye kufarira.
Iko kuita bonde kunomutsa kubva pabhati kana mumwe munhu achiratidza ungwaru. Ivo havadi kudzidza kana zivo, vanokwezva kune vanhu vanazvo.
Hazvina kusiyana kana mumwe munhu ane rutsoka fetish achiona tsoka dzakanaka mushure mekunge munhu abvisa shangu dzake. Ungwaru, kusiyana nehunhu hwepanyama, haizviratidze ipapo ipapo. Kune zvakare vanhu vazhinji vane hungwaru vane matambudziko ekutaurirana nevamwe vanhu nekuda kweakagadziriswa masocial disorder kana ivo vanonzwika chaizvo kunge vari kutaura mune mutauro wevatorwa.
Zvino zvaunoziva musiyano uripo pakati peepistemophiles, sophophiles, uye ngochani. Zviri nyore kuona kuti ndewe chikamu chipi, funga nezve iyo yekupedzisira nguva yawakanzwa chimwe chinhu chakadzama pfungwa-ichivhuvhuta. Wakave wakasimudzirwa nekuda kwezivo (epistemophilia), kana chokwadi chekuti iwe wakadzidza chimwe chinhu chinonakidza (sophophilia), kana kuti mutauri akangwara iwe unoda kuvananzva kwese (ngochani)?
Sapiosexual zvinoreva uye mararamiro
Zviri nyore kugadzira fungidziro pakati pevanoda kudzidza uye ruzivo uye ngochani nekuti ivo vanowanzo sanganiswa muboka rimwe chete.
Ruzivo, kudzidza, uye vanhu vakangwara zvakabatana zvekuti zviri nyore kuvasanganisa seumwe. Nekudaro, zvinokwanisika kupatsanura yega yega uye nekugadzira imwe mutsauko pakati pezvikamu zvitatu izvi. Ruzivo, semuenzaniso, runogona kuwanikwa munzvimbo dzisiri uropi hwemunhu.
Ngochani hadzive kuda mabhuku, dzinodanana nevanyori vadzo.
Ndicho chikonzero chevatatu, vanhu vanoita zvepabonde vanonyanya kuvimba munharaunda. Ivo vanogara vachitsvaga dzinokurudzira uye dzakangwara kutaurirana nevamwe vanhu uye vanosarudza kusangana navo mumunhu.
Sophophiles, kune rumwe rutivi, vanoziva kuti vanogona kudzidza vega. Ivo havadi kunzwa ruzivo zvakananga kubva kune mumwe munhu, chero bedzi ivo vari kudzidza kuburikidza neimwe nhepfenyuro kana zvinyorwa, ivo vanowana kugutsikana kwepabonde kuburikidza nazvo.
Nekuda kweizvozvo, veSapi ngochani vanhu vanofambidzana vanhu vachienzaniswa nevamwe vaviri. Imhaka yekuti chinangwa chekukwezva kwavo pabonde chaiko munhu pachinzvimbo chekuita kana chinhu chisingabatike. Tinogona kana kutaura kuti ngochani dzakajairika uye dzakagadzikana mupfungwa kupfuura mamwe maviri, mune izvo.
Ngochani dzinotsvaga vanhu vakangwara uye semhedzisiro vanogamuchira tsika dzevanhu. Ivo havana hunhu hwekudzikisira hunoonekwa mune mazhinji emamwe marudzi maviri evanoda ruzivo uye kudzidza. Ngochani kukwezvwa kune vakangwara vanhu kunovaita vane hushamwari, vanozvininipisa, uye vakasununguka-pfungwa. Chishuwo chavo chekudyidzana nevanhu vane huchenjeri hwepamusoro kune avo pachavo hunoratidza sehunhu hwakajeka uye hunoda kuziva.
Hazvishamise kuwana vanhu vanoita zvepabonde munehukama nemamwe marudzi maviri eruzivo uye vanoda kudzidza. Sei iwe uchifunga kuti kune vanopisa vane makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa vanodanana nevakare varombo koreji mapurofesa saAlicia Nash.
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