Zvemukati
- Hausi wega
- Kuchine tariro
- 1. Indaneti
- 2. Nzvimbo dzemunharaunda
- 3. Zvitoro zvemunharaunda pamwe nemabasa
- 4. Nharaunda dzekugara dzevakuru
Hazvina kunonoka kuwana rudo. Muchokwadi, vanomwe-mu-gumi vanhu vanopfuura makore makumi manomwe neshanu vanofunga kuti hausati wakura zvakanyanya kuti uwane rudo.
Gerontologists vanobvumirana kuti kudanana, rudo uye zviitiko zvemagariro zvikamu zvakakosha zvekukwegura. Ivo vane chaiko mabhenefiti ehutano uye mhando yehupenyu mumakore anotevera makore.
Pane shuwa munhu wese ane shamwari, mumwe munhu wekugovana nyaya naye uye anombundira kusvika husiku. Hazvina mhosva kuti tasvika zera ripi, kunzwa kudiwa chinhu chekugara tichikoshesa.
Chido chevadi vepedyo hachifi, uye zvakakosha kusangana mumapoka epamhepo uye mumapoka eboka. Nzira yakanakisa yekusangana nevanhu ndeyekuzvizivisa.
Hausi wega
Paive nekubvunzurudzwa kwechinguva kudzoka naJoan Didion; Akanyora memoir nezvekufa kwemurume wake, Iyo Gore reMagical Kufunga, yaive yakabudirira kwazvo uye weNational Book Award mubairo muna 2005.
Akabvunzurudza akamubvunza, "Unoda kuroora zvakare?" Uye Joan, mumakore ake makumi manomwe, akapindura, "Ah, kwete, kwete kuroora, asi ini ndingafarire kudanana zvakare!"
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Zvinoshamisa, vakuru ndivo chikamu chinokurumidza kukurumidza mu online kufambidzana. Sezviri pachena, kana zvasvika pakuda kudanana, Joan haasi ega.
Kana zvasvika pakuwira murudo kana kunyangwe kungoita shamwari nyowani, zera ingori nhamba.
Kune vazhinji, hukama hwehukama hwakauya uye hwapfuura mukati memakore, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda. Kunyangwe zvikonzero zvikonzero hukama hwehukama hwapera, isu tese tinogona kubvumirana kuti chikamu chehusiku hwehukama chero hukama hwakakodzera.
Changu chandinofarira chirevo ndeche Lao Tzu uye inoti - Kudiwa zvakanyanya nemumwe munhu kunokupa simba asi kuda mumwe munhu zvakanyanya kunokupa hushingi.
Pane chimwe chinhu nezve kudiwa chinoita kuti unzwe kusakosha, mukati nekunze. Rudo rwaunogashira runokusimbisa uye runokupa kupenya kunopenya. Kana mumwe munhu akanzwa rudo rwako, vanosvika pakunzwa vane chivimbo uye vanofara zvakare, zvinodaro.
Kana iwe uchida mumwe munhu iwe uchiziva kuti iwe uri kutanga kutora njodzi, ivo vanogona kukuda iwe zvakare, vangangove vasina zvakafanana rudo rwekunzwa. Chero nzira iyo yakanaka, rudo runotora zvivindi.
Kuchine tariro
Vanhu vazhinji nhasi havana kuroora mune makumi matanhatu. Izvi zvinogona kuve mugumisiro wekurambana, nekuti ivo chirikadzi kana murume akafirwa, kana nekuti havasati vawana munhu chaiye parizvino.
Nhau dzakanaka ndedzekuti, kune vazhinji vakura vanowana nyowani, uye pamwe isingatarisirwi, kudanana kumwe mushure mehupenyu; dzimwe nguva mumakore avo makumi manomwe, makumi masere kana makumi mapfumbamwe.
Kwemakore gumi apfuura kurambana kwakawedzera, uyezve huwandu hwevarume nevakadzi vanowana rudo zvakare mushure mehukama hwenguva refu. Vakwegura vazhinji vanoda rudo muhupenyu hwavo, mudiwa wavanogona kugovana mazuva avo naye, uye iwe unogona kuve munhu iyeye.
Kune vazhinji vane hupenyu uye vane njere vagari munharaunda dzekurega basa izvo zvinokuudza kuti ude hazvisi zvevechidiki chete, uye ivo vakarurama. Tose tinokodzera kuda uye kudiwa.
Kwokuwana kupi rudo rwako rutsva
1. Indaneti
Sekureva kwe2015 Pew Research Center kudzidza, 15% yevakuru veAmerica uye 29% yeavo vasina kuroora uye vachitsvaga wekufambidzana naye vakati ivo vaishandisa nhare yekufambidzana nevekufambidzana kana yepamhepo kufambidzana saiti kuti vapinde murefu hukama.
2. Nzvimbo dzemunharaunda
Nzvimbo dzemunharaunda dzine mhemberero dzinonakidza uye kushanya munzvimbo dzinotendera vakweguru vazhinji kuti vaungane, vasangane uye vave nekukurudzirana munharaunda. Vakuru vemunharaunda nzvimbo inzira iri nyore yekusangana nevamwe vane zvakafanana kufarira munharaunda yako.
3. Zvitoro zvemunharaunda pamwe nemabasa
Vamwe vanhu vanofarira kusangana nevanhu "nenzira yechinyakare", ini ndinonzwisisa, aya ndiwo masanganiro andakaita nemurume wangu.
Nzvimbo senge nzvimbo dzekutengesa zvekuvakidzana, maraibhurari, zvitoro zvekofi, kana nzvimbo dzekuvaraidza inzvimbo dzakanaka dzekuonana newangangodanana naye kana kunyangwe shamwari nyowani.
Kunyange nzira iyi ingave ichinetsa zvakanyanya kusangana nemumwe munhu waungazoroorana naye mukana wekubuda kuchitoro, zvinoita kuti ive nyaya yerudo.
4. Nharaunda dzekugara dzevakuru
Vakwegura vazhinji vanowana kushamwaridzana nerudo munzvimbo dzevakuru dzinogara; kungave kubatsirwa kurarama kana kurarama wakazvimiririra, kuve padyo padyo nekugovana zviitiko, kudya uye kugara pamwechete munzvimbo dzakabatana idzi zvinopa hupenyu hwevakuru.
Kunyangwe iwe uchifunga kuenda kunharaunda yakazvimiririra yekugara kana kutsvaga pamhepo, zvakakosha kuti ubate zuva racho wotanga kutsvaga kwako iwe shamwari.
Iko kiyi inoita kunge iri kupokana nengano nezvekweguru dzakazara munharaunda medu.
Mushure mezvose, hatisi kuwana chero mudiki.