Zvemukati
- Zvinhu zvitatu zvakakosha pakushamwaridzana kwepamoyo ndezvi:
- Chii chaungaite nezve kushungurudzika, kunzwa kusagadzikana, kana kusakwanisa kuvimba nevanhu?
Zviri muchimiro chedu kuda kunzwa padhuze nekubatana nevamwe, zvisinei, dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvinogona kuitika kutitadzisa kugona kuumba hukama hwepedyo izvi zviri nyore.
Kuumba mhando yehukama nemumwe munhu kwaunogona kugovana zvaunotya zvakadzama uye pfungwa dzako pachako chinhu varapi vanoreva sehukama hwepamoyo. Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo kunogona kuvapo pakati peshamwari uye nehukama hwakanaka hwepamoyo. Izvo zvakakosha kune mufaro wevanhu, hutano, uye kugara zvakanaka asi dzimwe nguva kugona kwedu kwekushushikana kwepfungwa kunokanganisika.
Zvinhu zvitatu zvakakosha pakushamwaridzana kwepamoyo ndezvi:
1. Kuvimba - Iwe unofanirwa kugona kuve nekunzwa kuvimba mune mumwe munhu kuti unzwe kuchengetedzeka kuvhura kwavari. Kuvimba kwakakosha pakugovana nekubatana. Kazhinji kazhinji kwete, matambudziko mukutendana kazhinji anobva kune munhu asiri kugona kuvimba, pane kuti mumwe wacho ave asina kuvimbika.
2. Kuchengeteka - Izvo zvakakosha kuti unzwe wakachengeteka mukati mako uye munzvimbo yako kuitira kuti ugone kuvimba. Kana iwe uchinzwa usiri wakachengeteka, haugone kuvhura kuvimba nemumwe munhu.
3. Iyo Nhanho Yakakwirira Yekusvinura uye Kujeka - Iyo yakakwira nhanho yekuvhurika uye kujekesa kunodiwa mukudziridza kuswedera kwechokwadi kungave uine shamwari kana mudiwa. Kudzivirirwa uye kuvimba ndiko hwaro kuti uve wakasununguka pakuva neyakareba nzvimbo yekuvhurika uye kujekesa.
Kazhinji zvinofuratirwa, chikonzero chikuru chekuti nei manzwiro ekuchengeteka uye kugona kuvimba nevanhu zvichikanganisa muvanhu vazhinji inyaya yekutambudzika. Kushungurudzika kunogona kukonzera shanduko muhuropi izvo zvinogona kutungamira mukuchinja kwakawanda mumanzwiro, maitiro, uye kufunga. Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga nezvekushungurudzika sechiitiko chinotyisa senge tsaona, kushungurudzwa pabonde, kana kupupurira chiitiko chinotyisa, kunyangwe iyo dudziro chaiyo yekushungurudzika yakanyanya kuwanda. Muchokwadi, vanhu vazhinji vakasangana neimwe nzira yekushungurudzika kana imwe. Trauma inotsanangurwa seyakaoma kwazvo kana isingafadzi chiitiko chinokonzera matambudziko epfungwa kana emanzwiro mune vamwe vanhu kazhinji kwenguva yakati mushure mechiitiko chinokanganisa kana zviitiko, kunze kwekunge zvarapwa neimwe nzira.
Nepo zvimwe zviitiko zvinoshungurudza zvichikonzera mamiriro ezvinhu anonzi Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), kune nzira dzakawanda dzekushungurudzika sekuva nemubereki anodzvinyirira, anonetsa, kana anoshusha; kudheererwa kuchikoro; kana kunge wanga uri muhukama hunoshungurudza hunogona kukanganisa neural kutenderera muhuropi nenzira yakafanana nenzira isingakonzere PTSD. Mhedzisiro yacho ndeyekuti vanhu vanoona kushungurudzika vanogona kuzviwana zvakaoma kuvimba nevanhu uye kuti vanzwe vakachengeteka zvavo. Izvi zvinoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kwazvo kune avo vanhu kukudziridza kudanana kwepamoyo muhukama hwavo.
Chii chaungaite nezve kushungurudzika, kunzwa kusagadzikana, kana kusakwanisa kuvimba nevanhu?
Kune mushonga wekuvhuvhuta unoshandiswa kurapa PTSD, inonzi EMDR Therapist (yakamirira Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) uye iko zvino yave kushandiswa kurapa vanhu vane kushungurudzika kwezvikamu zvese uye kuomarara. EMDR kurapa kunoshanda nekushandisa kusimudzira kwehuropi, kungave kuburikidza nekufamba kwemaziso, kurira kwetoni, kana kubata, kugadzirisa manzwiro ekutya, kushushikana, kutsamwa, kurasikirwa, uye kurwadziwa pamoyo. Maitiro aya anogadzirisazve manzwiro ekuvimba nekuchengetedzeka kugonesa vanhu kukudziridza hukama hwehukama hwepamoyo.
Kurapa kushungurudzika kunogona kubatsira kugadzirisa zvipingamupinyi kuhukama hwepamoyo. Kana iwe uchinetsekana kunzwa padhuze nekubatana nevamwe ungangoda kukurukura nyaya dzako neyemuno kana yepamhepo EMDR Therapist kana trauma nyanzvi kuti uone kana usina kugadzirisa kusagadzikana.