Zvemukati
- Zviratidzo zvemhirizhonga mudzimba
- Migumisiro Yemhirizhonga Mudzimba
- Ungazvichengetedza sei?
- Kuvandudza Chirongwa Chekuchengetedza Kubva
- Kudzoreredza Kubva Kunhamo Kwemanzwiro: Usatore Mhosva
- Nzira gumi dzekugadzirisa mhirizhonga mudzimba
- Kwatinofanira Kutsvaga Rubatsiro
- Tora woenda nazvo
Kana iwe wakambove muhukama hunosanganisira mhirizhonga mudzimba, zvakakosha kuti udzidze nezvezviratidzo zvemhirizhonga mudzimba pamwe nekukunda dambudziko iri. Pane nzira dzekuti ungatarise sei nemhirizhonga mudzimba, uzvichengetedze, uye nekugadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
Zviratidzo zvemhirizhonga mudzimba
Nhanho yekutanga yekuti ungagadzirise sei mhirizhonga mudzimba kuziva zviratidzo.
Maererano neNational Coalition Against Domestic Violence, pane zvimwe zvinoratidza kuti mumwe munhu anogona kunge ari iye anoita mhirizhonga mudzimba. Izvi zvinogona kusanganisira zvinotevera:
- Kushungurudzwa pabasa
- Godo rakasimba
- Utsinye kumhuka
- Kudzora maitiro
- Kumanikidza iwe kuti uite zvepabonde
- Kukupomera mhosva yekubiridzira kana kudanana
- Kudzora zvaunopfeka
- Kuratidza kusafungidzira kana kutsamwa kwakashata
- Vachikushungurudza
- Kuva nekutonga kwese pamusoro pemari
- Kukunyadzisa kana kukudzikisira
Hofisi yeVakadzi Hutano yataura zviratidzo zvakafanana zvechisimba mudzimba:
- Mumwe wako anotarisa mameseji efoni kana maemail iwe usinga zive.
- Mumwe wako anodzora zvaunodya, mapfekero ako, uye mashandisiro aunoita mari yako.
- Zvimwe zvako zvakakosha zvinokumisa kuenda kubasa kana kushandisa nguva uine shamwari kana mhuri.
- Mumwe wako anogona kuparadza zvinhu zvako.
- Zvimwe zvako zvakakosha zvinotyisidzira kukuvadza iwe kana vana vako.
- Unopomerwa mhosva yekuita zvechisimba.
- Mumwe wako anotyisidzira kuzvikuvadza kana agumbuka newe.
- Yako yakakosha zvimwe nemaune inokunyadzisa iwe pamberi pevamwe vanhu.
- Mumwe wako anokurova, kurova, kurova, kukusundira kana kukurova.
Sekutaura kwakaita nyanzvi idzi, mhirizhonga mudzimba haisi yekurohwa kana kurohwa. Inogonawo kusanganisira kushungurudzwa mupfungwa uye mupfungwa.
Chimwe chinhu chakakosha pakubata nemhirizhonga mudzimba kunzwisisa chokwadi chekuti chinotenderera muchimiro.
Izvi zvinoreva kuti mhirizhonga mudzimba inotanga nekutyisidzira kwemhirizhonga kubva kumushushi, kuchiteverwa nekurwiswa kwechisimba. Mushure meizvi, mubati zvisina kunaka anozokumbira ruregerero zvakanyanya uye anovimbisa kuti haazombobata zvekare, asi kutenderera kuchakurumidza kuzvidzokorora.
Migumisiro Yemhirizhonga Mudzimba
Tichifunga nezve mhando dzakasiyana dzemhirizhonga mudzimba, kune zvimwewo zvakashata zvinokonzereswa nekuva munhu akabatwa nemhirizhonga mudzimba. Izvi zvinosanganisira:
- Kurasikirwa nepfungwa yekuzvimiririra
- Mhedzisiro yakaipa pavana, sekutadza kuratidza tsitsi
- Kusava nechivimbo
- Kusurukirwa kubva kumhuri neshamwari
- Kunzwa kwekusagona
- Kuvimba nemubati zvisina kufanira
- Kunzwa kushaya zvekuita kana kuremara
- Kukahadzika kugona kwako kuzvitarisira
- Kuora mwoyo kana kunetseka
Ungazvichengetedza sei?
Rimwe rematanho ekuti ungatarise sei nemhirizhonga mudzimba kuzvichengetedza wakachengeteka. Sekureva kwenyanzvi, mhirizhonga mudzimba haigadzirise. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kuzvichengeta wakachengeteka kwakakosha.
Dzimwe nzira dzekurwisa mhirizhonga mudzimba uye nemabatirwo aungaitwa nemhirizhonga mudzimba dzinosanganisira:
- Kugadzira chirongwa chekuchengetedza kusiya mamiriro acho, kusanganisira kwaunoenda uye zvauchatora kana uchizoda kubva ipapo.
- Iwe unogona zvakare kurarama nemamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba nekusvika kushamwari yaunovimba kana nhengo yemhuri kuti ubatsirwe.
- Bata nharembozha, senge Nhare yeNyika Yemhirizhonga Mudzimba. Mushandi wepahotline anogona kukubatanidza iwe kune zviwanikwa zvemunharaunda zvemhirizhonga uye dzimba dzekugara uye kunyange kukubatsira iwe kugadzira chirongwa chekuchengetedza kuti usiye mamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba.
Rubatsiro nemhirizhonga mudzimba inowanikwa semhinduro yekuti ungagadzirise sei mhirizhonga mudzimba. Dzimwe sarudzo dzekuti ungatarisana sei nemhirizhonga mudzimba uye ugare wakachengeteka dzinosanganisira zvinotevera:
- Fonera 911 kana iwe uri munjodzi pakarepo.
- Faira gadziriro yekudzivirira kana uchinge wasiya mamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba.
- Wana kurapwa nekukurumidza kana wakakuvara kana kubatwa chibharo.
- Tsvaga nzvimbo dzemunharaunda kwaunogona kuwana rubatsiro nemhirizhonga mudzimba.
Kuvandudza Chirongwa Chekuchengetedza Kubva
Kana iwe uri mumamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba, zvakakosha kuti uve nehurongwa hwekuchengetedza panzvimbo panguva yedambudziko kana episode yemhirizhonga. Urongwa hwekuchengeteka hwekuti ungagadzirise sei mhirizhonga mudzimba unosanganisira zvaunozoita mune yekukurumidzira inoda kuti ubve nekuchimbidza.
Iwe unofanirwa kuverenga zvese nezve chirongwa chekuchengetedza, kusanganisira kwaunoenda uye kuti uchakwanisa sei kubva nekukasira.
Izvi zvinogona kusanganisira kuchengetedza chikwama chako kana makiyi munzvimbo inowanikwa nyore nyore kana kuva nemunhu waunogona kufonera kuti auye kuzokutora kana paitika njodzi.
Kana iwe uine vana, zvingave zvakafanira kuvasanganisira muhurongwa hwekuchengetedza maitiro ekugadzirisa mhirizhonga mudzimba, kusanganisira kuvadzidzisa kudana 911. Unogona zvakare kunge uine kodhi kodhi iwe yaunogona kushandisa kutaurira vana vako zvavanoda kudaidza mapurisa.
Zvinogona zvakare kubatsira kuzivisa vamwe vanhu, vakaita sevavakidzani, nezve mamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba uye kukumbira kuti vafonere 911 kana vachifungidzira kuti kune dambudziko.
Zano rako rekuchengetedza maitiro ekugadzirisa mhirizhonga yemudzimba inogona zvakare kusanganisira nzira dzekumisa mhirizhonga mudzimba kana kudzikisa njodzi yekukuvara panguva yedambudziko.
Semuenzaniso, semhinduro yemaitiro ekugadzirisa mhirizhonga mudzimba, unogona kudzivirira kuita hurukuro dzinokanganisa mumakamuri ari kubva pamba.
Kana iwe ukaona kuti mumwe wako ari kuratidza zviratidzo zvekushatirwa, hurongwa hwako hwekuchengetedza hunogona kusanganisira nzira dzekumisa gakava kana hurukuro kuti zvidzivirire kubva pakuwedzera kusvika pakurwisa kwechisimba.
Chirongwa chekuchengetedza maitiro ekugadzirisa mhirizhonga mudzimba chinogona kusanganisira kuti iwe unogara sei wakachengeteka panguva yedambudziko, pamwe nekuti unogara sei wakachengeteka kana iwe uchigadzirira kusiya mamiriro emhirizhonga yemumba zvachose.
Kudzoreredza Kubva Kunhamo Kwemanzwiro: Usatore Mhosva
Kunyangwe zvichikosha kuita hurongwa hwekuchengetedza dambudziko remhirizhonga mudzimba, zvinodawo kuti iwe upore kubva mukushungurudzika kwekuve mumamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba.
Imwe yenhanho dzekutanga dzekuti ungagadzirise sei mhirizhonga mudzimba uye kushungurudzika kunoitika mumashure kunzwisisa kuti hausi iwe unokonzeresa nekushungurudzwa.
Anokushungurudza anogona kuedza kukugonesa kuti kutukwa, kutukwa, uye kushungurudzwa mupfungwa imhosva yako kana kuti neimwe nzira wakavafanirwa nekutadza kufadza mubati zvisina kunaka.
Kunyangwe iwe ukaita zvinhu zvakagumburisa uyo anoshungurudza, mhirizhonga mudzimba haisi mhosva yemunhu akabatwa. Hapana munhu ane kodzero yekukushungurudza kana kutora mukana newe.
Zvinosuruvarisa, vakadzi vanogona kutora mhosva yemhirizhonga mudzimba, asi iri mhosva yemubati zvisina kufanira. Anobatwa anogona kutenda kuti kushungurudzwa imhedzisiro yekurangwa nekuda kwekukanganisa kana maitiro akaipa.
Izvi zvinogona kutungamira nyajambwa kuti achinje maitiro ake, asi nekufamba kwenguva, zvinova pachena kuti kushungurudzwa kucharamba kuripo, zvisinei nezvinoitwa nemunhu anenge akuvadzwa.
Mumamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba, mubati zvisina kunaka anongoda kutonga zvakakwana uye kutonga pamusoro pemunhu akabatwa. Iyi imhosva zvachose yemubati zvisina kufanira, uye zvechokwadi hapana kwekutiza, kunyanya kana nyajambwa achitora mhosva.
- Kuziva kuti mamiriro aive asiri ako nderimwe remazano akanakisa ezvaungaite mushure memhirizhonga mudzimba.
- Kugamuchira chokwadi ichi uye kutendeukira kune vanotsigira hama nehama ndizvo zvese zvaunoda kuti ukunde mhirizhonga mudzimba.
- Vamwe vanhu vangangoda rumwe rubatsiro kuti vakwanise kubata nemhirizhonga mudzimba uye kushungurudzika kwainounza.
Kana iwe ukaona kuti iwe unoda rubatsiro nemhirizhonga yemudzimba, unogona kubatsirwa nekutaura kwaunogara nharaunda yekuitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba kana kiriniki yehutano hwepfungwa munharaunda yako kuti uone kana vachipa mapoka evanopukunyuka mumhirizhonga mudzimba.
Kana iwe uchinetseka kutsvaga zviwanikwa, nhare yeNational Domestic Violence inogona kubatsira.
Zvinobatsirawo kunzwisisa kuti mhirizhonga mudzimba inokuvadza hutano hwepfungwa nemanzwiro.
Mhirizhonga yepanyama uye pabonde, pamwe nekutuka, zvinogona kuderedza kuzvidzora kwako uye nekugadzira kutya uye kushushikana. Zvichipa kukomba kwemhirizhonga mudzimba, hazvishamise kuti vanhu vawane zviratidzo zvehutano hwepfungwa mushure mekusiya mamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba.
Muchokwadi, ongororo ya2016 muGlobal Health Action yakawana kuti kushushikana uye kushungurudzika zvakajairika pakati pevakadzi vakapona mumhirizhonga mudzimba.
Uyezve, vazhinji vevakadzi vaive nezviratidzo zve posttraumatic kusagadzikana kusagadzikana.
Kunyanya kushungurudzwa kwakanyanya, zviratidzo zvehutano hwepfungwa izvo vakadzi vakasangana nazvo. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kana wanga uchirwisana nekutarisana nemhirizhonga mudzimba, hapana chinonyadzisa mukutsvaga kurapwa kana kurairwa.
Muchokwadi, zvakajairika zvachose kuda kupindira kwehunyanzvi hwepfungwa.
Mune ino inozivikanwa vhidhiyo yeTedx, Emma Murphy anokurukura kudzokororwa kwake bhatiri repamba uye kuti akawana sei simba reizwi rake. Iye zvino ave Mumiririri weMhirizhonga Mudzimba.
Tarisa Iyi Vhidhiyo
Nzira gumi dzekugadzirisa mhirizhonga mudzimba
Kuziva zvekuita nezve mhirizhonga mudzimba kunogona kubatsira kuti ubate nemamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba uye ugare wakachengeteka. Mazano gumi anotevera anogona kubatsira pakubata nemhirizhonga mudzimba:
- Gadzira chirongwa chekuchengetedza, saka iwe unozoziva zvekuita kana iwe uchida kubva wabva pamba pako iwe nekuchengeteka kwevana vako.
- Gadzira runyorwa rwevanhu vanotsigira iwe vaunogona kubata kana zvashata kana kana uchingoda kutsigirwa nemanzwiro.
- Bata hotline yemhirizhonga mudzimba kana iwe uchida rubatsiro kugadzira chirongwa.
- Svikira kune zviwanikwa zvemuno, senge mapoka ekutsigira kana dzimba dzemhirizhonga mudzimba.
- Tsvaga kurapwa kwehutano hwepfungwa kana iwe uri kunzwa kwekushushikana kana kushushikana kana kunetsekana kurarama nemhirizhonga mudzimba.
- Bata dare remhuri remunharaunda kana dare rehukama hwepamba kuti unyore gwaro redziviriro.
- Tsvaga kurapwa kana wakakuvara.
- Ziva kuti kushungurudzwa haisi mhosva yako.
- Usaedze kugadzirisa hukama kana kurapa mubati zvisina kufanira; mhirizhonga mudzimba mamiriro haigadzirise.
- Fonera 911 kana iwe uri munjodzi nekukasira uye usingakwanise kusiya mamiriro acho.
Kwatinofanira Kutsvaga Rubatsiro
Zano rambotaurwa rinokupa matanho akasimba ezvaungaite nezve mhirizhonga mudzimba, uyezve kuti ungatendeukira kunaani. Muchidimbu, zvinotevera inzvimbo dzaunogona kuenda kunotsvaga mhirizhonga mudzimba:
- Chipatara, chekurapwa kwekukuvara kubva kumhirizhonga
- Dhipatimendi remapurisa emuno
- Mhuri yemuno kana dare rehukama hwepamba rekurambidza
- Kliniki yehutano hwepfungwa yekurapa kushungurudzika mupfungwa
- Imba yemhirizhonga mudzimba munharaunda mako
- Nhare Yenyika Dzese Yemhirizhonga Mudzimba
- Shamwari dzakavimbika, vavakidzani, kana nhengo dzemhuri
Tora woenda nazvo
Mhirizhonga mudzimba inosanganisira mhando dzakasiyana dzekushungurudzwa, kusanganisira kurohwa, kutukwa, uye kushungurudzwa mupfungwa. Kana iwe uri mumamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba, unogona kushamisika nezvenzira dzekumisa mhirizhonga mudzimba, asi chokwadi ndechekuti hukama nemhirizhonga mudzimba hazviwanzo
Kana uchinge wasiya mamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba uye wave kusarudza zvekuita mushure memhirizhonga mudzimba, ungangoda kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kunhare yemunharaunda kana kuenda kumisangano yeboka rekutsigira.
Izvo zvakare zvinogamuchirwa kutendeukira kune wehutano hwepfungwa kana iwe ukaona kuti uri kunetseka kurarama nemhedzisiro senge kushungurudzika, kushushikana, kana kushushikana.