Zvemukati
- Dambudziko-rakajairika
- Ita shuwa kuti unoyemura kuti ndiani nhasi
- Mamaki ehurombo hunhu: Iwo matatu maAAA
- Inonyanyisa A: Nyaya
- Zviratidzo zvehunhu hwakanaka
- Usati wataura ndinoita
Wave nenguva uchidanana. Unogona kunge uchigara pamwe chete. Murume wako akazopopota mubvunzo, asi iwe uri kushamisika: iwe unofanirwa here kuti hongu?
Kana iwe uchizeza, ura hwako huri kukuudza iwe chimwe chinhu. Ndinokukurudzira kuti utore nhanho kumashure, wongorora hukama hwakatendeseka sezvaungagone, uye uve nechokwadi chekuti ndiye chaiye. Nei ndichikurudzira yambiro yakadaro?
Nekuti ini ndinoshanda sewanano chipangamazano, ndichinyanya kugadzirisa nyaya. Ini ndoziva kuoma kwewanano, uye ndiri kukuudza, kana usiri 100% kusvetuka kumusoro uye pasi wakagadzirira kumuroora, panogona kunge paine chakaipa.
Dambudziko-rakajairika
Pane chirevo chekare chekuti mukadzi anoroora murume achitarisira kumuchinja, nepo murume achiroora mukadzi achitarisira kuti haambochinje.
Kana iwe wakazeza (kana ikozvino uri kubvunza kana iwe uchifanira kunge wakamboti hongu-vakadzi vazhinji vanoti hongu nekuti ndicho "chakarurama" chinhu chekuita kana nekuti havadi kumurwadzisa manzwiro ake), unoziva kuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunyatsonaka . Vakadzi vazhinji vanhu-vanofadza (isu takadzidziswa kuva nenzira iyi), uye saka tinopinda muwanano tichiziva kuti murume wedu haasi izvo chaizvo zvatinoda muhupenyu hwehupenyu, asi achitarisira kuti achazosvika ipapo. Iye anozokura kuita iro basa, kana iye anozodzikama kunze. Anongoda nguva, handiti?
Zvakashata.
Yakurudzirwa - Pre Kuroora Kosi
Ita shuwa kuti unoyemura kuti ndiani nhasi
Vanhu havashanduke nekuda kwekuti iwe vade ivo, uye hukama hwakawanda hunodzika pasi machubhu nekuti mumwe mudiwa ari kuedza kuchinja mumwe. Unozoshungurudzika nekuti haasi kuchinja, uye anozokutsamwira nekusamugamuchira sezvaari. Kana iwe uchida muchato unobudirira, roora munhu anotova nehunhu hwakanaka, kwete mukana wekuti pamwe-pamwe-rimwe zuva uchinje kuve murume wemaroto ako.
Sei hunhu hwakakosha? Nekuti hupenyu hwakaoma, uye iwe unoda mumwe munhu anoita chaicho chinhu kunyangwe zvisiri nyore. Kwete mumwe munhu ane mukana wekuita chinhu chakakodzera rimwe zuva mumugwagwa.
Mamaki ehurombo hunhu: Iwo matatu maAAA
Ndakabvunza Brett Novick, murapi uye munyori we "Usaroore Marimu!" yezano rake pane zvekutarisa mumurume kana mukadzi. Anopa zano achitarisa hunhu uye hunhu kupfuura zvese, kusanganisira kukwezva kwemuviri uye kemesitiri.
"Chenjerera katatu maA's: iyo AAA yeAlcohol, Addiction, Affairs," Novick anodaro. “Vane nhoroondo yekusvetuka kubva pahukama kuenda pahukama? Kupindwa muropa? Vanonwa zvakanyanya here? ”
Novick anoyambira pamusoro peAAAs nekuti vanotaura zvakawanda nezvehunhu hwemunhu. Munhu anonwa zvakawandisa pamwe haakwanise kurarama nematambudziko zvine hutano, uye kudhakwa ihondo inopedza zvese inosimbisa hukama hwenyu. Saizvozvowo kupindwa muropa kunoratidza kushaya hunhu kunogona kukanganisa muchato. Murume ane nhoroondo yehukama hupfupi angave asingakwanise kuzvipira kwauri.
Inonyanyisa A: Nyaya
Ko kana akakunyengerera usati waroora? Ndiri nyanzvi mukubatsira michato kupora kubva mukusavimbika, ndinokurudzira zvakasimba kuti uzvipedze izvozvi. Kuroora kwakaoma. Unoda mumwe munhu anogara aripo kuti akubatsire, kunyangwe munguva dzakaipa. Kana akakunyengedza, akuratidza kuti iye ndiani. Famba kunze kwemukova izvozvi, apo kurwadziwa kwacho kungori kwekuputsa. Kurwadziwa kwekurambana kwakanyanya, kunyanya kana iwe uine vana naye.
Zviratidzo zvehunhu hwakanaka
Asi iwe ungaziva sei kana murume aine hunhu hwakanaka?
Novick anoti unogona kutaura kana murume aine hunhu hwakanaka kana hwakaipa nekucherechedza kudyidzana kwake nevamwe vanhu. "Isu tese tinoedza kuve nehunhu hwedu hwakanakisisa patinotanga kusangana nemumwe munhu," anodaro Novick. “Tinovimba anokubata zvakanaka. Tarisa uone mabatiro aanoita vamwe vanhu, kunyanya vanhu vasingakwanise kumubatsira kana kumubatsira neimwe nzira. Anobata sei waiter? Mhuri yake? Amai vake? ”
Sei uchifanira kutarisisa mabatiro aanoita vanhu vasingamupe rubatsiro? Vazhinji vanhu vane ruzivo rwakakwana kuti vazive kuti isu tinofanirwa kuzvibata zvakanaka kana tichida kuwana chimwe chinhu mukudzoka. Nekudaro, iwe unofanirwa kuziva kuti achakubata sei mune ramangwana, kana mese mukagadzikana nemumwe, kana mune kushungurudzika. Mushure mekunge nguva yehusiku yapera, acharamba achifunga here? Iwe unoda kusarudza mumwe munhu ane mutsa, ane rupo, anoremekedza uye anoda kupira vamwe.
Saizvozvo, iwe unoda kutsvaga zvinoratidza kuti iye ndiye mhando yemunhu anokwanisa kukunda madutu ehupenyu. Akashinga here? Zvakanaka? Kugona kubata zvipingamupinyi nematambudziko pasina kupomera vamwe matambudziko ake? Tarisa uone mabatiro aanoita zvese kubva kune yakaipa traffic kune tsaona yemotokari. Zvese zvinhu zvinogara zviri kukanganisa kwemumwe munhu here, kana kuti anokwanisa kugamuchira mhosva kana akanganisa? Anotsiva kana ane nyasha?
Usati wataura ndinoita
Kusarudza mudiwa kunogona kunetsa. Zvinogona kuyedza kugadzirisa uye wongoti ehe kana kutsvaga kwako murume kwave kwenguva refu uye kuchinetesa. Sa chipangamazano wewanano, ndinogona kukuvimbisa kuti zvirinani kuramba usina kuroora uye kuramba uchitsvaga pane kusunga pfumo nemunhu asina hunhu. Murume akanaka akakodzera kumirira, kunyangwe iwe uchifanira kurega kuroorana usati wakurumidza.