Zvemukati
- Hukama nevanhu vanopenga
- Narcissistic hukama hwehukama
- 2. VaNarcissist vari kudzora uye kushandisa
- 3. VaNarcissist vane njodzi
- 4. VaNarcissist vachadzikisira Ex yavo
Iyo nguva iyo munhu paanonzwa achikwezva kune mumwe murume webonde (kana dzimwe nguva bonde rimwe chete, asi ndiyo imwe nyaya), ivo vanorota nezve rudo, kudanana, uye hukama.
Kunge miswe yengano inotengeswa kuvana, Muchinda naMambokadzi vanosangana, vanowira murudo, uye vanorarama vachifara nekusingaperi. Nehurombo, hupenyu huri kure nazvo. Dzimwe nguva rudo harubvumidzwe, uye pane dzimwe nguva muchinda nemuchinda, havasangane zvachose.
Kune dzimwewo nguva apo mumwe wavo anopedzisira aroora chikara.
Hukama nevanhu vanopenga
1% yevagari vanotambura neNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) sekumwe kufungidzira. Iyo nhamba inganzwika senge nhamba diki, asi kana iwe uchinyatsofunga nezvayo, ndiye 1 pavanhu zana. Munyika ine mamirioni mazana matatu, vanhu vatatu miriyoni.
Rubatsiro gwara rinoratidza zviratidzo nezviratidzo zveNPD. Kuziva kuvepo kwavo muhukama, iri danho rekutanga riri pachena kuziva munhu ane NPD.
- Grandiose pfungwa yekuzvikoshesa
- Kufungidzira kwehukuru
- Unoda kugara uchisimbiswa uye nekodzero
- Biridzira uye unodheerera vamwe
VaNarcissist vane yakawandisa vhezheni yavo yekuzvikoshesa.
Sezvo vanhu vazhinji vanobudirira zvechokwadi senge rockstars, mabhirionea, uye vatambi venyeredzi vanoita nenzira imwecheteyo, zvinogadzira trope yezvinofanirwa kuitwa nemunhu akabudirira pane ruzhinji. Musiyano ndewekuti ivo vanhu vakabudirira vane chaiye uye vanovimbiswa kubudirira kunoonekwa nepo narcissists achingova piggyback kubva kune vamwe.
Vanhu vazhinji vanonyengerwa neichi chiito.
VaNarcissist vanoreva nhema uye nekudaro, vanoramba vachivaka humbowo hunosimbisa fungidziro yavo. Nekudaro, ivo vanokwezva vadyidzani avo vanotenda kuti ihoho "kubata" kwakanaka.
Narcissistic hukama hwehukama
Vanhu vane NPD vanoenda kuburikidza nehukama nenzira chaiyo yakafanana, vanobva kubva pakupisa kusvika pakupisa kupisa, kudzika kwakadzika kwegehena kupisa.
1. VaNarcissist vane rudo rwakanyanya
Vanodanana ivo vari kana zvirinani, pakutanga kwehukama. VaNarcissist vanoteera zvavanoda nechishuwo. Pfungwa yavo yekodzero haizovatenderi ivo kutora izvo zvavanofunga semba yavo (kunyangwe zvisiri).
Kana iwe uri mukutambira kunogamuchirwa kweiyi kutarisisa, zvinogona kutaridzika kunge kwakanyanya kudanana.
Iroto remunhu wese kusangana nemumwe wake akakura kupfuura hupenyu (kana kuzvibata senge), uye uvape kutarisisa kwavo sekunge pasina chimwe chinhu chakakosha pasi rose. Izvi zvinodaro nekuti pane dambudziko munyika yekufungidzira munyika yenarcissist.
Dambudziko nderekuti vanotenda kuti ndevako iwe, asi ivo vanoziva zvakadzika pasi mukati kuti ivo havana. Ivo vanozobva vashandisa hunyengeri hwavo hwese kukuwana iwe sekunge iwe uri mubairo wekuhwina.
2. VaNarcissist vari kudzora uye kushandisa
Ukangozvipa kwavari, zvinhu zvinochinja. Panguva iyoyo, ivo havachakuone iwe segomo rinofanira kukundwa, asi muranda mune yavo. Vanoziva kuti hauna kukwana, uye vachatanga kukuumba iwe kuva "muranda" wavo akakwana.
Yese narcissistic rudo mapatani anoteedzera iyi chaiyo template sekunge vakaidzidza kubva mubhuku rekuverenga kumwe kunhu.
Chinozotanga nekukumbira kusiri pachena kwevavakaroorana navo kuti vatevere senge shanduko yebvudzi, mapfekero, matauriro, nezvimwe. Ivo vane moyo murefu mupfupi, saka kazhinji chikamu ichi zvakare ipfupi kana ukasavatevera izvozvi.
Vazhinji vavakidzani vanoda kuita shanduko diki dzepamusoro kuti vafadze uye kudzivirira hukama kubva mukuparara.
Mushure mechikamu ichocho, ivo vachatanga kukuparadzanisa iwe kubva kushamwari dzako, mhuri, uye zvese zvaunofarira, kusanganisira zvaunofarira. Ivo vanotenda kuti ndiwe wavo uye vanogona kukushandisa / kukuumba sezvavanoda. Ivo zvakare vanoziva kuti simba rekunze rinovhiringidza yavo ye "partner polishing projekiti" uye vanozvidza vamwe vese zvishoma nezvishoma, asi zvine hukasha.
Sevadyidzani, iyi hukama hwehukama hunotanga kukura kutsemuka mumubatanidzwa wavo sezvo chokwadi chinopesana nekufungidzira kwavo. Vamwe vanobatana nehukama hwakasimba vanodzivisawo kurapwa kwakadai. Kurwa kwaizogara kuchiputika sezvo narcissist achiedza kukwikwidza kutonga kwavo.
Kunyanya mumwe wavo paanoramba, zvakanyanya narcissist, ari anorasikirwa zvakanyanya, achizvirwira.
Iyi narcissistic hukama hwehukama hunopinda muchikamu chitsva uye chine njodzi.
3. VaNarcissist vane njodzi
Ivo vanozotanga kushandisa nzira dzakavanzika kuti vatorezve kutonga pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu. Ichatanga nekutyisidzira, kubiridzira, uye kumanikidza. Kana iyo nyaya isina kugadziriswa ipapo, narcissist anozoenda nekumwe kwekutyisidzira uye anogona kuwana muviri panguva yekukakavadzana nekumwe kupesana.
Ipfungwa yakanaka kuzivisa shamwari dzakavimbika uye mhuri mamiriro ekuchengetedza kwako.
Zvinodemba kana iwe ukacheka zvisungo kana kupesanisa shamwari dzako uye mhuri muchikamu chakapfuura. Nekudaro, vazhinji vavo vane hanya newe zvechokwadi vanokutora iwe kumashure uye vanokudzivirira.
Usakanganwa kukumbira ruregerero.
Iye weNarcissist anoziva kuti panguva ino, hukama hwapera uye zvinotora matanho ekudzora kukanganisa kumagumo kwavo nekukudza pane mumwe wavo. Usashamisika kana vari kubiridzira nemumwe munhu, kusanganisira vanhu vepedyo newe panguva ino. Kana varipo, dai ivo zvose zvakanaka.
Ivo vanozosangana neiyo yakafanana narcissistic hukama pateni pakupedzisira.
4. VaNarcissist vachadzikisira Ex yavo
Iyo nguva iyo hukama hwacho huchipunzika kunyangwe zvisiri pamutemo zviri pamutemo, weNarcissist achakubata semarara akaraswa.
Usashamiswe kana zvakavanzika zvako zvakadzika kwazvo zvakapararira paInternet kuti munhu wese aone. Vachaedza kuparadza hupenyu hwako hwese. Ivo vacharwisa zvinhu zvako pachako, rako basa, hwako humwe hukama neshamwari uye nemhuri.
Nzira dzinosiyana kubva pamunhu kusvika pamunhu, asi dzese dzichaedza kukudzikisira, kuti vakwanise kumisikidza mhosva paunenge watsemuka. Usaite kusavimbika usina kurambana zviri pamutemo newaunodanana naye.
Ivo vanozosimudzira izvo nehurefu mhedzisiro.
Munyika yakanaka, hukama hwaizopera uye narcissist angadai awana tarisiro nyowani uye imwecheteyo chepfu narcissistic hukama hwehukama hunotanga zvakare.
Mabatiro avanoita narcissist maexes avo anogona kufananidzwa nemabatiro aizoitwa munhu kondomu rakashandiswa. Ivo vaizozviona sezvakanaka pachinogara, asi ikozvino chingori chidimbu chemarara.
Pane mimwe misiyano iyo narcissists isingakoshese avo vekare, asi pachinzvimbo, simudza ivo semuenzaniso usingawanikwe kune wavanodanana naye kutevedzera, zvisinei, kuti zvinoguma sei kune iye waanodanana naye.
Kune rombo rakanaka kuti zvapera. Kubviswa kwakanaka.