Zvemukati
- Endgame mupfungwa
- Zvirongwa zvakakosha zvekufunga
- Kashoma kuti mumwe asangane nemunhu anokodzera zvese zvavanofunga zvakakwana
- Kushungurudzika kunononoka pamusoro peimwe remabhokisi ekutanga asina kumakwa
- Kufananidza munhu chaiye nechaunofungidzira chakambovapo mupfungwa dzavo
Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda nei tichiroora munhu watinoita asi zvizhinji zvacho zvinosvika panguva. Maive mese mese makagadzirira kuita kuzvipira kune mumwe munhu panguva ino muhupenyu hwako.
Kunze kwekunge munhu akagadzirira kuve nehukama hwakakomba, vanogona kufambidzana nevanhu vazhinji vongoona kuti yega yega ine huwandu hwekushomeka maererano nezvauri kutsvaga.
Endgame mupfungwa
Kana izvi "pickiness" zvikaitika nguva nenguva nemunhu anozviti ari kutsvagisisa murume wekufambidzana naye, unotanga kushamisika kana ivo vasina kugadzirira kuita kumwe kukanganisa nezvavanoda. Chaizvoizvo, iyo nzira yese yekufambidzana uye kutsvaga Mr. kana Mai Kurudyi inopedza simba zvekuti zvinongoitisa kudzikiswa kwematanho emunhu.
Vanhu vazhinji vanoreva izvi segadziriro uye nemugumo wayo wepanyama se "kugadzirisa" uye chinoonekwa sechinhu chakaipa.
Asi chiri chinhu chakaipa here kana kuti kudzikisira zvaunotarisira chinhu chinonzwisisika chinotibvumidza kuti tigone kuenzanisa kwedu, kusarudza mumwe munhu, uye kuzvibvumira kuita chinamato kumunhu uyu. Kunyangwe isu tichizviziva kana kwete isu tinosvika kufambidzana nerunyorwa rwezvakanaka mupfungwa medu zvatiri kuyedza kuenzanisa.
Zvirongwa zvakakosha zvekufunga
Mumwe mukadzi wechidiki anga achangobva kufambidzana, akanditi nemufaro, "Atarisa mabhokisi ese!" Akanzwa akanaka uye achifara nezvake.
Mimwe mienzaniso yemafungiro akakosha chaizvo kukwezva kwemunhu uye kuve nekumwe kwakajairika mumashure kungave kwetsika, zvechitendero kana zvemagariro.
Kufarira kwakajairika uye kufanana kwakawanda kunowanzoonekwa sehunhu hunotsvakwa nevanhu.
Vamwe vanhu vanoomerera pane imwe nhanho yedzidzo, kana kubudirira mune zvemari uye vamwe vanoda kuona kuseka mune wauchazoroora.
Kashoma kuti mumwe asangane nemunhu anokodzera zvese zvavanofunga zvakakwana
Kunyangwe zvisiri zvakaoma kuwana munhu anogutsa zvimwe kana kunyangwe mazhinji ezvikamu izvi, kashoma kuti mumwe asangane nemunhu anokodzera zvese zvavanofunga zvakakwana. Uye zvakadaro vanhu vazhinji vanofambira mberi nehukama uye vanodzidza kujairira, kana kushanda vakatenderedza zvinhu zvisingaenderane zvakakwana.
Saka, kudzikiswa kwemipimo yemunhu muenzaniso we "kugadzirisa" kana kuri kuchinjika uye kuchinyatsoita? Uye apa ndipo panosvika nguva. Ivo vanhu vakasangana nemumwe munhu anotarisa mazhinji emabhokisi, kazhinji anotendera mashoma emabhokisi avo kuti aende asina kuongororwa.
Izvi zvinoreva here kuti vakagadzirira chimwe chinhu chisiri icho chavainyatsoda kana vakaona kuti vakagutsikana nemunhu pamatanho mazhinji kunyangwe iwo mabhokisi ese asina kuongororwa. Uye pamwe vawana humwe hunhu hwavanofadzwa nahwo hwavaive vasina kutarisira kana kumbofungidzira kuti hunhu mune yavo yekuda runyorwa rwehunhu.
Mubasa rangu nevaroorani vari kunetsekana imwe yemanzwiro ekutanga andinosangana nawo pfungwa yekuodza mwoyo mumwe nemumwe ane chekuita nezveumwe. Kunyangwe kana huzhinji hwehukama hwacho hukashanda mushe uye huchigutsa pane kuchiri kunzwa kwakashata kunge grey gore rakaturikwa pamusoro pedu mumba.
Kushungurudzika kunononoka pamusoro peimwe remabhokisi ekutanga asina kumakwa
Kana ini ndatanga kubvarura izvo zvisiri kushanda muhukama hwavo ini ndinogara ndichiwana kunetseka kusingagumi pane rimwe remabhokisi ekutanga asina kubviswa. Iyi ipfungwa yakasimba yekurasikirwa iyo munhu asina kunyatso kuchema uye kurega kuenda nayo. Ivo vachiri kutarisira kuona mumwe wavo pakupedzisira achitarisa iri risina chinhu bhokisi kuti ivo vanzwe zvechokwadi kuzadzikiswa.
Izvo zvakakosha kuti uzive kuti hapana munhu anombozvitsanangura nenzira iyi. Ivo havatoziva kuti iri ndiro dambudziko. Ava ndivo vakaroorana vari kunetsana pamwe chete pamusoro pezvinhu zvinoita sezvidiki. Asi dhinomineta mune aya makakatanwa nenharo kuora mwoyo.
Vanowanzoreva kuti havana kumbofungidzira kuti roorano ichavaita kuti vanzwe seizvi. Vanonzwa kuora mwoyo, dzimwe nguva vakavharirwa, uye kunyange "kuputsika" sevaroorani.
Kunyangwe iri risiri iro chete dambudziko muhukama hwavo, kana kunyangwe iro dambudziko hombe rinowedzera mukusingaperi kwekunzwa kushushikana mune mumwe nemumwe.
Kufananidza munhu chaiye nechaunofungidzira chakambovapo mupfungwa dzavo
Kana ivo vachitsvaga Couples Therapy uye iyi pfungwa yekuodzwa mwoyo pamusoro peicho chaakawana ichienzaniswa neicho chaanogara achida uye achitenda kuti vaizowana, pane pfungwa yekusununguka inouya pamusoro pavo.
Ivo vanotanga kuona kuti ivo vari kuenzanisa munhu chaiye kune fungidziro yakanaka iyo yave iripo mundangariro dzavo kwemakore. Kunzwisisa izvi kunopa nzira inoenda kumberi. Saka, aiwa havana kuroora munhu asiri iye mushure mezvose. Ivo vangadai vasina kurega kwavo kwezvavanofunga zvavanotarisira.