Zvemukati
- Asi zvakadiniko nezvehumwe hukama hwese hwatinoona zuva nezuva?
- Iyo Yechitatu Circle Protocol
- Hukama uye kukosha kwevanhu muhupenyu hwedu
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Asi zvakadiniko nezvehumwe hukama hwese hwatinoona zuva nezuva?
Funga vanoshanda navo? Tezvara? Vanun'una? Yedu yekuita-kuita hukama sachiremba wemazino kana chiremba? Sabhuku uyo zuva nezuva haawedzere chinhu kune iyo EQ nhanho yebasa? Kana kunyangwe akanaka sekuru Harry, ndiani anorwadziwa asi asi anoratidza pazororo roga roga akagadzirira kukutyaira nzungu? Ko zvakadii nezvehukama hwako naye - mumwe wevasingadiwe muhupenyu? Iko hakuna kuve nerubatsiro rwakawanda kunze uko rwekugadzirisa hukama uhu. Takatofanira kupukuta nekuvaita kuti vashande nepatinogona napo.
Iyo Yechitatu Circle Protocol
Ini ndinotenda ndawana mhinduro, uye ndinoidaidza Iyo Yechitatu Circle Protocol. Denderedzwa rechitatu chibvumirano chisina kutaurwa chatinacho nemumwe nemumwe. Izvo zvinotarisirwa zvatisingataure nezvazvo asi zvinobva zvaitika. Zvatinotarisira kubva kune mumwe wedu, mukuwasha, wechidiki, kunyangwe munyori pamagirosa. Mumwe munhu anotarisira kubva kwatiri zvakare. Uye hapana munhu anotaura nezve izvo zvinotarisirwa - chibvumirano ichocho chatinacho pamwechete. Iwe, muverengi neni. Tine kondirakiti. Iwe unotarisira kudzidza chimwe chinhu chinobatsira kubva kuchinyorwa chino uye ndine tarisiro yekuti iwe uchaiverenga (ndinovimba kusvika kumagumo) uye kudzidza chimwe chinhu kubva mauri chaunogona kushandisa muhupenyu hwako. Kana kunyangwe zvirinani, iva nechido chakaringana nezveProtocol iwe yaungade kudzidza zvakawanda nezvayo, kubva kune yangu webhusaiti kana bhuku.
Makore masere apfuura kukiriniki yangu, ini ndaishanda nemumwe murume wechidiki aive akagara nhaka bhizinesi revabereki vake, raisanganisira mubhuki webhuku uyo aimuziva kubvira aine makore mana ekuberekwa. Nehurombo mubati webhuku anga achiri kumuitira nenzira iyoyo. Sekuti anga aine makore mana ekuberekwa. Izvo zvakave zvakajeka kwazvo mukati memisangano yataifanira kugadzira paradigm nyowani yehukama ihwohwo - iye aida kumuchengeta iye nehutano hwake! Saka wechitatu 'ari' akasikwa, zvakamuita iye, mubati webhuku uye hukama - pachayo chikamu chechitatu. Isu takashanda pane izvo izvo 'chinzvimbo' chakagadzirwa nezvacho, hunhu uye zvakakosha, izvo zvinodikanwa uye zvinodiwa zvemunhu wega wega, uye izvo zvavakagadzirirwa kupa kune ichi chitsva 'chiri'. Hukama hwavo.
Pfungwa iyi yakashanda nemazvo, ini ndave kuishandisa mukiriniki nevechidiki nevabereki, vakaroorana, vatezvara, vashandi nevashandirwi uye chero imwe nzvimbo ine hukama hukama. Ini ndakaidzidzisawo kune vezvepfungwa uye varairidzi vanoishandisa nevatengi vavo.
Hukama uye kukosha kwevanhu muhupenyu hwedu
Ongororo ichangoburwa yeHarvard yakaguma mushure memakore anopfuura makumi mashanu nezvakawanda zvakawanikwa zvakawanikwa zvakakomberedza nyaya dzehukama uye kukosha kwevanhu muhupenyu hwedu. Dr. Waldinger vanotungamira mutsvagiri vakabvuma kuti nekutevera izvo zvidzidzo kwemakumi makumi emakore uye nekuenzanisa mamiriro ehutano hwavo uye hukama hwavo pakutanga, aive nechivimbo chakasimba chekuti hukama hwehukama hwakasimba ibasa rinokonzeresa muhutano hwakareba uye hupenyu hwakanaka.
"Chidzidzo chedu chakaratidza kuti vanhu vakaita zvakanakisa ndivo vanhu vakasendamira muhukama nemhuri, neshamwari uye nenharaunda."
Hukama hunosimbisa zvatiri. Isu tinoita uye tinoita kune vanhu vakatikomberedza - saka zvakakosha kuti udzidze kubatana nemunhu wese; vatinoshanda navo, vanin'ina vedu, vabereki vane vechidiki uye kunyangwe vasingadiwe muhupenyu hwedu.
Sezvineiwo zvakakwana, isu tinogara tichida kuti vanhu vatigamuchire zvatiri, asi vanozeza kuvabvuma sezvavari. Nzira yekubatana neavo vatinoda, senge uye vatinoda zvishoma, ndeye, ini ndinotenda, kuburikidza nekutsvaga zvakagovaniswa tsika kana hupenyu hwekutanga. Hatifanirwe 'kufarira' munhu kuti tigarisane navo. Isu tinongoda kutsvaga nzira yakanakisa yekuwiriranisa uye nekubvumira hukama hwakanaka kuti huitike. Kunyangwe dzimwe nguva zvinoita kunge zvisingaite, hazvisi. Tsvaga kukosha kwaunogovana iwe, chinhu chekutanga chinobatanidza nekushanda neicho iwe chaunogona kuwana. Zvinoita kuti hupenyu huve nyore, hunyoro uye hunakidze.
Inotevera nguva ini ndichaongorora hukama nevakuwasha nevabereki kana iwe uchijoinha mhuri. Kusvika panguva iyoyo, rarama tsika dzako. Ndivo chaizvo zvauri.