Zvemukati
- 1. Iva nechokwadi chekuti mese muri papeji imwe chete
- 2. Tora zvishoma
- 3. Ipa iyi yakawanda nzvimbo yekukura
- 4. Mazuva ako ekutanga haasi ekurapa, saka usaburitse zvakawandisa
- 5. Ramba uchirarama wega, hwakanakisa hupenyu
Wakambosangana nemumwe munhu waunofunga kuti waungade kufambidzana naye chete here?
Aya matanho mashanu ekutora usati watanga hukama hutsva. Aya matipi anova nechokwadi chekuti mese munobva netsoka yekurudyi kuitira kuti rudo rwenyu ruve nemukana wese wekubudirira!
1. Iva nechokwadi chekuti mese muri papeji imwe chete
Wanga uine akateedzana mazuva uye dzimwe huru, dzakadzama hurukuro. Muri vaviri mumuviri uye nehungwaru munokwezva kune mumwe nemumwe. Asi chinhu chimwe chinofuratirwa nevamwe vanhu kukosha kwekutaura izvo zvavanotarisira zvehukama. Tinogona kutya kuvhundutsira mumwe munhu kana kuita sevanoshaiwa zvakanyanya. Asi pane nzira dzekuratidzira zvaunoda muhukama (uye kunyanya, nemunhu uyu wawakasangana naye) usingaite senge unorema kana kusachinjika.
Donhedza mukukurukurirana izvo zvinhu izvo iwe zvawakaona se "ndinofanira kuva nazvo" muhukama nekutaura chimwe chinhu senge "Kana ndangoziva kuti ndiri mukomana, ndinofambidzana naye chete. Ini ndiri wega. Uri?"
Chinangwa cheiyi hurukuro ndechekujekesa kuti imi mose muri kutsvaga chinhu chimwe chete pamunotanga ichi chitsauko chitsva muhupenyu hwerudo..
Zvirinani uzive izvozvi, usati waisa mari yakawanda mumurume uyu, kuti aiwa, achiri kuda kutamba munda.
2. Tora zvishoma
Chinhu chekutanga chinhu icho vanhu vanogona kuita kutsemura hukama hunogona-hunotyisa mubhu ndiko kuita hukama nekukurumidza.
Pomera mahormone edu, asi zviri nyore kwazvo "kuenda zvakanyanya, nekukurumidza" kana iwe uchangopedza kudya kwakanaka kwemanheru, uchinwa, uchidururira mwoyo yako kune mumwe nemumwe, uye nyeredzi mumaziso ako dziri kukupofomadza iwe ku chokwadi chekuti hauna kunyatso kushandisa nguva inodiwa kuvaka kubatana kwemanzwiro.
Rangarira: kurara pamwe chete padanho rekutanga rehukama hazviwanzo kubatsira kuvaka hukama nehungwaru hwaunoda muhukama hwakareba, hukama hwakasimba.
Nzira iri nani yekuvakira hwaro hwakadzikama hwekuvakira nyaya yerudo ndeyekutanga kumisikidza chisungo chemweya, wozouya wekunzwa, uye pekupedzisira panyama. Maitiro acho anofanirwa kuitwa zvishoma nezvishoma, nokungwarira, uye nekuenderera mberi kwekutaurirana pakati pevamwe.
Kana mumwe wako achikumanikidza kuti uve nehukama nekukurumidza kupfuura zvauri kunzwa kugadzikana nazvo, uye asingateerere kuti nei uchida kumirira, iyi inogona kunge iri mureza mutsvuku waunoshuvira kuteerera. Katatu kunze kwenguva haazokufonere mangwanani kana iwe uka “bvuma” kuchikumbiro chake.
Nyanzvi dzinoti mutemo wakanaka wechigunwe ndewokushandisa misi mitanhatu yekutanga kusvika pakuzivana uye kuvaka icho chakakosha-chisiri chemuviri kubatana usati waendesa zvinhu kuimba yekurara.
3. Ipa iyi yakawanda nzvimbo yekukura
Isu tese tinoda iyo yemusoro, yekutanga-vhiki kunzwa kwehukama huri kutumbuka. Uye kunyangwe zvichiyedza uye zviri nyore kuchinjana zvinyorwa, mapikicha, mameseji uye mamonikisi zuva rese nerudo rwako rutsva rwechido, bata.
Usadirize inbox. Inogona kunge iri yechinyakare fungwa, asi ndeye yakaratidza: rudo runosveta zvirinani kana paine imwe nzvimbo uye chinhambwe pakati pekutaurirana.
Kunyanya kuonana pakutanga kunotora murazvo uri kukura semvura iri pamoto. Zvakaoma, asi usanyanya kuvepo. (Unogona kufunga nezvake mupfungwa dzako zvese zvaunoda, hapana anozozviziva nezvazvo!).
Uye kana achigara achikutumira mameseji, fungidzira.
Iye anogona kunge ari adrenaline junky, achiita zvakafanana nevamwe vakadzi. Iyo nzira ine hutano yekutangisa hukama hutsva ndeyekuburitsa maemail, zvinyorwa uye mameseji pamwe nezuva racho nenzira yekuti pane nzvimbo pakati peimwe neiyi yekuti manzwiro ako akure zvine muviri.
4. Mazuva ako ekutanga haasi ekurapa, saka usaburitse zvakawandisa
Kumwe kwekukanganisa kukuru kwaunogona kuita kana uchitanga hukama hutsva ndeye tsika yekuburitsa yako yese yemukati mikwende ipapo. Mushure mezvose, iwe une mudiwa anoteerera ipapo ipapo, achikubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda, ane shungu yekukuziva iwe.
Kana iwe uri mutsva kubva kune imwe hukama, uye pamwe uchidanana zvishoma nekukurumidza, zvichave zviri nyore kwazvo kuburitsa zvese zvakadzama zvehukama ihwohwo. Kurwadziwa kwako kuri ipapo pamusoro, wakagadzirira kudururira kune chero munhu anobvunza nezvekuti nei usati waroora.(Rega tikuraire pano chaipo kuti usakurumidza kufambidzana mushure mekurambana, uye kuve nechokwadi chekuti uri pamusoro pewawakaroorana naye usati wasvetukira mune imwe hukama, kunyanya iyo yaunoda kuenda nayo kwenguva refu.)
Chakavanzika chinokwezva, saka shandisa iwo matanhatu ekutanga mazuva kuti utaure nezvako mumashoko akapamhama- rako basa, zvaunofarira, nzvimbo dzaunofarira dzezororo - asi chengetedza dzaimbove nyaya dzehukama kana zvakadzama, zvakashungurudza zviitiko zvako munzira yekudzika kana iwe uri kunzwa wakachengeteka uye nemumwe wako.
Shandisa iwo matanhatu ekutanga mazuva kuti unakirwe, govana mwenje nguva, uye muratidzane mativi ako anofara.
5. Ramba uchirarama wega, hwakanakisa hupenyu
Kumwe kukanganisa kunoitwa nevanhu kana vachibatana nemunhu mutsva kuisa mari yakawandisa muhukama hutsva uye nekuisa parutivi hupenyu hwavo. Shamwari yako nyowani yakakwezvwa newe nekuda kwehupenyu hukuru hwawanga uchirarama usati wasangana, saka ramba uchirarama hupenyu ihwohwo! Enderera mberi nekudzidziswa kwako kweiyo marathon, ako eFrance makirasi, yako yekuzvipira chiitiko nevasina pekugara, vako vasikana-husiku-kunze.
Hapana chinhu chinogona kuuraya hukama hunotanga nekukurumidza kupfuura kupa zvese izvo kumusoro kuti utarise chete pamunhu mutsva.
Usaregeredze zvawaive usati hukama uhwu hwasvika panzvimbo - iwe unonyanya kutaridzika nekuda kwezvinhu zvese izvi zvinopfumisa zvaunoita kana wakaparadzana.