Zvemukati
- Iwe unozviwana iwe pachako uchiti, "Ndinoda kudanana"?
- Mibvunzo yekudanana haingori yekunakidzwa chete asi inoshanda
- Maitiro ekuita kuti mumwe munhu akude iwe
- Mibvunzo iripo mumutambo uyu inosanganisira inotevera
Madimikira comedies uye Disney mambokadzi anoita kudonha murudo newe, kana mumwe munhu anoita kunge ari nyore kwazvo.
Nekudaro, kana iwe ukataura kune vamwe vakambove muhukama chaihwo, iwe unozoona kuti hapana nhungamiro yekuti ungadanana sei kana kuti ungaita sei kuti mumwe munhu adanane newe.
Kudonha murudo hakuna kunyanya kuoma kana iwe uchiziva nezvechazvino nzira kutenderera internet. Iyi ndiyo nzira inosanganisira mibvunzo kudanana.
Kubvunza mibvunzo makumi matatu nenhanhatu inotungamira kurudo rwakavhenganiswa nemaminetsi mana-akasangana nemeso akatumidzwa seye nzira yekudonha murudo uye kutogadzira kushamwaridzana pakati pevasinganzwisisike vevasingazive.
Mibvunzo yekubvunza kuti uzive mumwe munhu inogona kunge yakajairika, uye iyi makumi matatu nenhanhatu mibvunzo zvakare yakajairika.
Ivo vanoonekwa semibvunzo yekubvunza kuti vadanwe kunyangwe iri mibvunzo yakajairika. Ramba uchifunga kuti zviito zvako zvinogona kukwezva vausingazive asi kwete kuita kuti vadanane; kuitira kudanana, iyi mibvunzo inouya inobatsira.
Iyi yakajairwa mibvunzo mutambo wevakaroorana ichabatsira mukusimbisa chisungo chavo uye kuita kuti vafarire nguva yavo. Saka ngativerengei zvakawanda nezvemubvunzo unotungamira kurudo.
Mibvunzo yerudo inogadzira: Mibvunzo yekudonha murudo
Iwe unozviwana iwe pachako uchiti, "Ndinoda kudanana"?
Ngatitangei tinzwisise kuti iyi mibvunzo yekudonha murudo yakauya sei mukugadzira.
Mugore ra1997, wezvepfungwa Arthur Aron akaongorora mikana yekumhanyisa kushamwaridzana pakati pevaviri vasingazivikanwe nekusvitsa mibvunzo yekubvunza kuti uzive mumwe munhu.
Iyi mibvunzo yaive yemunhu chaiye, uye akatenda kuti iyi mibvunzo ndiyo mhinduro kwayo kune 'maitiro ekuita kuti mumwe munhu adanane newe.'
Kubva pakagadzirwa mibvunzo yaDr. Aron yekubvunza vavakaroorana naye, akazviona zvichimutsidzira kudanana kunyange muhukama hwakareba-hwakawanda hwakarasa tariro.
Sekureva kwa Dr. Aron, apo vanhu vaviri pavanozviwana vari muhukama hwepabonde kwenguva yekutanga, pane mufaro wakanyanya pakati pevaviri; zvisinei, sezvo nguva inopfuura, iwe unowanzo kukura kubva mukunakidzwa uku uye kukura uchishandiswa kune mumwe nemumwe.
Zvisinei, sekutaura kwaArthur Aron, kana iwe ukaita chimwe chinhu chinonetsa uye chitsva chinogona kukuyeuchidza nezvenguva inonakidza nemumwe wako, hukama hwenyu hwese huchave huri nani uye hutsva.
Iye akabva aronga iyo 'kusvika kukuziva iwe' mibvunzo yevakaroora.
Iyi mibvunzo makumi matatu nenhatu yaive yemunhu zvakanyanya uye yakatora ingangoita maminitsi makumi mana neshanu kupedzisa.
Sezvo iwe uchienderera kumberi, iyo mibvunzo yekudonha murudo inova yakanyanya kusimba uye yehukama kupfuura iyo yaimbove.
Dr. Aron nemukadzi wake vakatoshandisa iyi yemibvunzo kubatanidza neshamwari pamisi yemanheru.
Mibvunzo yekudanana haingori yekunakidzwa chete asi inoshanda
Vakaonekwa muNew York Times Yemazuva Ano Rudo chikamu pasi pemusoro unoti 'Kudonha Nemumwe Munhu, Ita Izvi.' Iyi ikholamu yakanyorwa nemunyori Mandy Len Catron, uye yake yerudo nyaya yaive muenzaniso wekuti mibvunzo iyi yakashanda sei.
Akaedza dzidziso yaDr. Aron pane mumwe munhu waakange asingazive asati asangana.
Akataura kuti zvakamutorera rinenge awa kuti apedze mibvunzo yese iyi. Paakangopedza izvi, akanyatsodanana nemunhu, iye ndokumudira. Saka mibvunzo iyi inoshanda sei?
Maitiro ekuita kuti mumwe munhu akude iwe
Kuti utambe mutambo wemubvunzo makumi matatu nematanhatu kune vakaroorana, unofanira kutanga unzwisisa kuti unoshanda sei.
Iwo mafambiro ari nyore; vamwe vacho vanofanira kuchinjana kubvunza mibvunzo. Mumwe achabvunzwa newe, nepo mumwe wako achizobvunza wechipiri. Ramba uchifunga kuti iye munhu ari kubvunza iwo mubvunzo anozofanirawo kuupindura pakutanga.
Paunenge uchinge wabvunza mibvunzo yese iripo pawebhusaiti, uchafanirwa kutarisana mumaziso kwechinguva chidimbu chemaminetsi maviri kusvika mana.
Munyori, Mandy Len Carton anoti maminetsi maviri ekutanga akakwana kutya, asi kana ukayambuka maminetsi mana ekutarisa, iwe unoziva kuti inogona kuenda kumwe kunhu.
Mibvunzo iripo mumutambo uyu inosanganisira inotevera
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- Wakapedzisira riini kuimba wega kana kune mumwe munhu?
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- Tichifunga kuti iwe unogona kusarudza chero munhu kubva pasi rino, ndiani waungade kuve naye semuenzi wemanheru?
Yasara mimwe mibvunzo yakafanana neiyi asi tora humwe hupenyu munzira.
Zvisinei, haugone kubvunza mumwe munhu, 'uri murudo' zvakajeka. Tamba mutambo uyu nevako vaunoda, uye utiudze kuti zvakakufambira sei!