Zvemukati
- Ndiani ane mhosva yekusagadzikana muhukama hwerudo?
- Isu tinoda kutsvaga mbudzi yekuyananisa kuti ipinze mhosva dzose
- Zvirinyore kuva nyajambwa pane kubvuma kwako kusagadzikana
- Hwisisa kuti imi mose mune zvakaenzana mabasa mukusagadzikana
Kusashanda muhukama hwerudo? Ndiani chaizvo ane mhosva? Zvinoitika nguva dzese, sechiitiko chokwadi kusagadzikana muhukama hwerudo kwakajairika zvekuti tine mwero wakakura wekurambana uchiri muAmerica. Iko kusagadzikana kuri pachena kunotanga nzira pamberi pekurambana.
Ndiani ane mhosva yekusagadzikana muhukama hwerudo?
Pano tinotaura nezvekushomeka muhukama hwerudo uye mutoro unouya kana tichiedza kushandura edu azvino uye apfuura maitiro erudo. Hukama hwakaoma. Zvisinei nezvaungaverenga nezvazvo mumagazini akakurumbira, mabhuku akanaka ekufunga. Hukama ibasa rakaoma. Zvirinani kana iwe uchida yakanaka. Kungofanana nekuva nemuviri mukuru ibasa rakaoma chaizvo.
Saka kana iwe uri muhukama hwakaoma, ndiani ane mhosva yekusagadzikana muhupenyu hwako hwerudo? Anenge makore mana apfuura, vaviri vakasvika muhofisi mangu nekuti vaive padanho rekurambana. Mudzimai aishungurudza mari, achivatungamira mukuparara kwemari, uye murume ainwa zvakanyanyisa pakupera kwevhiki kumufarira.
Isu tinoda kutsvaga mbudzi yekuyananisa kuti ipinze mhosva dzose
Saka vakapinda vachiedza kufunga kuti ndiyani aikonzera hukama. Ehezve, ndozvatinoda kuita. Tsvaga mbudzi yekuyananisa. Uye mushure memavhiki mana ekushanda pamwe chete, ndakauya kwavari nemhedziso ndiyo mhedziso imwechete yandinouya kune vese vaviri vari kutambura nehupenyu hwavo hwerudo. Hakuna mumwe wenyu ari nyajambwa, uyezve hakuna wenyu sosi huru yechinetso.
Vakanditarisa kunge ndaive nemisoro zviuru gumi nenomwe. "Unorevei nazvo?", Mudzimai akadaro. "Kushandisa kwandakaita hakuna kana padhuze kunokanganisa hukama hwedu sekupera kwesvondo." Mhinduro iyoyo haina kushamisika, asi zvandakataura kumashure zvakashamisa gehena kunze kwavo vaviri.
“Teererai, imi varume mave muri pamwe chete kwemakore gumi nemashanu, uye kwegumi remakore gumi nemashanu, mave mune kusagadzikana kwakazara. Kwete kuvimba mumwe nemumwe. Kuzadzwa nehasha. Uchave nemwedzi kana miviri kana mitatu sezvawakandiudza kuti zvinhu zvaive zvakanaka asi kune gumi nemaviri pagore, zvinoreva kuti mwedzi mipfumbamwe inotevera yakayamwa. Zvino aya ndiwo mazwi ako, kwete angu. "Chokwadi chiripo ndechekuti imi mese mugare pamwe kwenguva yakareba muukama husina kumira zvakanaka, zvinoti imi mose mune 50% mutoro wekusagadzikana kwamurikunzwa izvozvi, uye manzwa kare."
Zvirinyore kuva nyajambwa pane kubvuma kwako kusagadzikana
Kana vanhu vaviri vari kunetsekana murudo, rambai muchigara musinga tsvage rubatsiro rwakakura, rurefu-rwekupa mazano, saka ivo vaviri vakaremara zvakaenzana munzvimbo yehukama. Zvino, idzi inhau dzakanaka, nekuti haugone kunongedza munwe wako uye kupomera chidhakwa kana wavagonesa nekugara muhukama kwemakore gumi nemashanu. Uye saizvozvowo, haugone kupa mhosva weanodzvinyirira uyo ari kupedza ako maakaundi ebhengi, nekuti iwe wakagara navo kwemakore pamakore pamusoro pemakore sezvavakuita mune yavo pachezvayo Kupindwa muropa.
Izvo chaizvo zvakatora vaviri ava, pandakatanga kushanda navo mumwe nemumwe, mamwe mavhiki mana vasati vagona kubata zvandaitaura. Uye chikonzero cheizvozvo? Zviri nyore kwazvo kuve nyajambwa, kuronga kuti dambudziko muhukama ndiye mudiwa, uye kwete isu pachedu.
Hwisisa kuti imi mose mune zvakaenzana mabasa mukusagadzikana
Asi rega ndimbodzokorora izvi nekuti zvakakosha kuti munhu wese atore uye apinze. Kana iwe uri muhukama hwakareba husina hutano, imi mese mune zvakaenzana mabasa mune kusagadzikana, hapana akaipa kupfuura mumwe.
Iwe unogona kunge uine chidhakwa, uyo ane codependent uyo anotya kuzunza chikepe uye nekumisikidza zvakakomba miganho uye mhedzisiro.
Iwe unogona kuve neanodzvinyirira spender, uyo ane ane codependent, mune imwechete mamiriro, kutya kutya kuzunza igwa uye kupedza kupenga. Uye apo ini ndichienderera mberi ndichishanda pamwe nevakaroorana pamusoro, ivo vakaita shanduko inoshamisa. Yakaguma yatora ingangoita mwedzi gumi nembiri yebasa, asi ivo vakakwanisa kudonhedza hasha, chigumbu, kushungurudzwa uye kupomera, kugamuchira kwavo kusagadzikana muhukama hwerudo uye pakupedzisira kuidzosa kukona yekutanga, vakagwinya, vanoremekedza uye vane rudo. Izvo zvaive zvakakodzera basa racho, zvaive zvakafanira kuedza, uye iwe unogona kuva zvakafanana.
Yekupedzisira tora
Ukangoisa nguva yakakwana nemupi wezano, unogona zvakare kusvika pakufunga kuti hukama ihwohwo hwaive nezuva rekupera iro imi mose makaregeredza, uye kuti maifanira kunge makaripedza makore apfuura, uye moita sarudzo ikozvino yekubva kure neruremekedzo, ndinovimba kudzidza kubva muchiitiko ichi kuti usazozvidzokorora zvakare. Chero nzira, imi mose munokunda murudo.