Zvemukati
- Zvepamutemo mumeso emutemo kwese kwese kusanganisira anochengetedza nyika
- Kugovana kodzero dzakaenzana kumaropafadzo sevamwe vakaroora vagari
- Paflipside, pane gomo remapepa uye red tape
- Kuchinja kukuru kweparadigm mukugamuchirwa kwemichato-yevakomana michato
Dzinopfuura nyika gumi nembiri pasi rose dzakanyoresa kuroorwa kwevanhukadzi nevanhurume. Asi chii chinonzi kuroorwa kwevanhukadzi-bonde chaizvo, uye "kuziva" zvinorevei? Iyi nharaunda ine nharo yave iri munhau nguva pfupi yadarika, saka ngatitarisei kuti izvi zvinorevei. Isu takaunganidza timu yevanhu vanoziva kuroorwa-kwevakaroora kana kuroorwa kuti vabatsire kutsanangura zvishoma nezvenhoroondo uye zvazvino mamiriro enzvimbo iyi yemuchato nyowani kuitira kuti iwe uzive zvese nezve izvo zvakafanana bonde-bonde.
Kutanga kubva, kuroorwa-kwevakaroora kana kuroorwa ndizvo chaizvo zvazvinonzwika. Dare Repamusorosoro reUnited States rakapa mutongo muna2015 kuti kuroorwa kwevanhukadzi nevanhurume yaive kodzero yebumbiro, nekudaro zviri pamutemo mumatunhu ese makumi mashanu. Asati a2015, dzimwe nyika dzakange dzazvinyoresa zviri pamutemo, asi iyo apo Dare Repamusorosoro rakaita mutongo waro wekare, wakave mutemo wenyika.
Nyanzvi yezvebumbiro remitemo inozivikanwa, Eric Brown, akarangarira nemufaro danho iri, “Handifi ndakakanganwa zuva riye raGumiguru. Chaive chakaitika uye chakakosha kuita sarudzo sechero ipi yemutongo wekodzero dzeVanhu neCourt Court. Nekuzviita kodzero, vakaroora kana vakadzi vakaroora vaive nekodzero dzakaenzana sevamwe vakaroora. Iye zvino vanogona kuve vanokodzera kubatsirwa nemurume kana mukadzi pabasa, kuchengetedzeka munharaunda, inishuwarenzi, uye pakunyorera mutero wemari. Zvepamutemo, ngochani-vakaroorana vanogona kuve "hama yepedyo" kana zvasvika pakuzadza mafomu ehurumende uye kuita sarudzo dzekurapa. Nyika yese yakachinja nemutongo wakakosha zvikuru weDare Repamusorosoro. ”
Zvepamutemo mumeso emutemo kwese kwese kusanganisira anochengetedza nyika
Peter Granston, munyori wemabhuku ane makore ekuma40, anga achigara nemumwe wake, Richard Livingston, chiremba wemapapu, kweanopfuura makore gumi. Peter akaudza marriage.com, "Ndakachema. Ini ndakachema chaizvo pandakanzwa mutongo weDare Repamusorosoro. Ini naRichard takanga tafamba kuenda uye takaroora muna 2014 muMassachusetts, asi muchato wedu hauna kuzivikanwa kumusha kwedu. Zvese takangoerekana tave pamutemo mumaziso emutemo kwese kwese kusanganisira needu mamiriro ekuchengetedza. Ini ndakabva ndatanga kuronga muchato hombe wakarongeka wemuchato kukirabhu yemuno.
Nenzira iyoyo munhu wese - waunoshanda naye kubva kubasa, shamwari dzeupenyu hwese, mhuri, munhu wese anokwanisa kuuya kumafaro anotyisa. ” Akaenderera mberi nechido, "Uye ranga riri zuva ripi. Isu takashandisa kamari kashoma nekuti kaive kamwechete muchiitiko cheupenyu. Taida munhu wese anga ave chikamu chehupenyu hwedu kuti apemberere roorano yedu yepamutemo nesu. Isu takaburitsa zvimire zvese: tsime re champagne, caviar uye blinis, bhendi repamoyo. Takatamba kusvikira zuva rabuda. ”
Kugovana kodzero dzakaenzana kumaropafadzo sevamwe vakaroora vagari
Gloria Hunter, 32, ndeyechokwadi-bhuruu ane hunyanzvi surfer uyo anoshanda semutyairi wendege nendege huru. “Handina kumbobvira ndafunga zvekuroora zvakanyanya, sezvo kudzidza kwangu uye kurovedzwa kwaisimbisa kufunga kwakanaka, kuongorora. Ini ndaiziva kuti kuroora kwaisave mukana, saka ndakazviramba sechimwe chezvinhu zvisingaite muhupenyu, sechinhu chingafarirwe nevamwe, asi kwete ini kubva mumwe wangu wemakore masere, Michelle, ari mukadzi. Izvo hazvina kumbotinetsa chaizvo kusvikira ndakakuvadzwa mutsaona yekusevha, muchipatara, uye Michelle haana kubvumidzwa kundiona nekuti mirau yechipatara yairambidza chero munhu asi nhengo dzemhuri dzepedyo kushanya. Akataura zvine simba, “Michelle akatsamwa. Ndakanga ndisina nhengo dzemhuri mukati memakiromita zviuru zviviri, uye rudo rwehupenyu hwangu rwakatadza kana kushanya?
Neraki, ndakaburitswa mukati memazuva mashoma, asi pandakanga ndakarara pamubhedha wechipatara, ndakaona kuti mune imwe nyika taigona kuchata, uye ndaisazombofanira kusangana nerusarura rwakadai kubva muchipatara zvakare. Achinyemwerera zvakanyanya, Gloria akaenderera mberi achiti, “Takatarisa kunzvimbo dzakasiyana dzemichato kumatunhu uko kuroorana kwevanhukadzi nevanhurume kuri pamutemo, asi nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero, hatina kumbobvumirana.
Pakati pekuyedza kutsvaga kwedu nzvimbo, mutongo wedare repamusoro wakaitwa. Rega ndikutaurire nezvemuchato wedu: takaroora pamhenderekedzo yegungwa nemakumi mashanu eshamwari dzedu uye mhuri varipo, uye takapedza nguva yedu yekuchata tichikwikwidza mumakungwa matatu akasiyana. Kunyangwe izvo zvaive zvakanaka, chii chiri nani kwandiri, uye kune vese vagari, ndechekuti isu tava kugovana kodzero dzakaenzana kumufaro wekuroora uye neropafadzo sekushanya kuchipatara, sevamwe vese vagari vakaroora. Ndiko kuenzana kwechokwadi. ”
Paflipside, pane gomo remapepa uye red tape
Kuroora-kwevanhukadzi kuroora, hongu, haisi kodzero yepasirese, asi chii chinoitika kana mumwe mukadzi ari mugari weUnited States uye mumwe wacho asiri? Munguva yakapfuura, pakanga pasina mukana wekuroora kana murume bonde, asi izvozvi zvinogona kuitwa. Ehe, pane gomo remapepa uye red tape. Bruce Hoffmeister, ane makore makumi matatu nemasere, akasangana nemumwe waakashanda naye kwenguva yakareba, Luis Ecargon, makore makumi mashanu, pachikoro chemutauro wechiSpanish kuCuernavaca, Mexico. Bruce akaseka achinyatsotaura kuti vakasangana sei. “Ndakakumbirwa nemudzidzisi wangu kuti ndiende kuhofisi kunoronga kuiswa mukirasi yepasi nekuti ndaisanzwisisa izwi rakataurwa. Luis aive maneja anotungamira uye paakangondinzwa ndichiedza kutaura neSpanish, akandiisa padanho repasi. Ndakapedza mwedzi mitatu ndichiedza kudzidza, uye pakupera, ndakanga ndave semi-okay. Luis aive pamhemberero yekupedzisa, akauya kuzondikorokotedza uye akataura kuti achange ari muLos Angeles mwedzi unotevera. Ndakamukumbira kuti andipe runhare paanenge ari muL.A., uye zvimwe zvese nhoroondo.
Tese takatama pakati penyika kwemakore nekuda kwekurambidzwa kwemavisa. " Luis akawedzera, "mamaira anogara achitonhora atakakwidza panguva iyoyo yabhadharwa kuzororo renyika kuzororo! Zvino, mapepa angu akaiswa kuImmigration uye zviri pamutemo ndinogona kushanda pano. ” Mugari wemuU.S. anokwanisa kunyorera gwaro remvumo yekugara (iyo inonzi "kiredhiti kadhi" kune mumwe wake wekune imwe nyika izvozvi. Izvi zvinotsanangura maitiro nemafomu.
Kuchinja kukuru kweparadigm mukugamuchirwa kwemichato-yevakomana michato
Kuroora-kwevanhukadzi muchato kuchiri kunetsana mune mamwe madenderedzwa. Zvisinei, zvinenge zvikamu zviviri kubva muzvitatu zvevaAmerica hazvipikisane nazvo. Hupenyu, rusununguko uye kutsvaga kwemufaro mazwi anowanikwa muDeclaration of Independence, muchato wevanhu vese vekuAmerican zvisinei nekwekuita zvepabonde ikozvino kodzero yehurumende.