Zvemukati
- 1. Zvemumoyo zvinotarisana nevakaroora maitiro ekurapa
- 2. Yakanaka psychology kurapa kwevakaroora
- 3. Maitiro eGottman
- 4. Kuroora-kwakavakirwa pavakaroorana uye kupanana mazano
- 5. Kuraira wega
- 6. Kurapa kwekurondedzera
- 7. Imago hukama kurapa
- 8. Psychodynamic nzira
- 9. Kunzwisisa kuraira
Paunonzwa mazwi "kupanana mazano," kana "vakaroora maitiro ekurapa”Ndechipi chinhu chekutanga chinouya mupfungwa? Zvichida iwe unofungidzira vaviri vari kunetsana nemumwe, vakagara pamubhedha vachitaura nemupi wezano reroorano.
Izvo zvinogona kunge zviri izvo kurairirwa kwekuroora zvinowanzoita kunge, asi iwe waiziva here kuti kune akati wandei matekinoroji akasiyana?
Chinhu chekutanga chaunofanirwa kuita kana uchifunga nezvekupa mazano kune vakaroorana kutsvaga mukoti akanaka wezano.
Mumwe nemumwe wezano rewanano akasiyana, mhando yemaitiro ekupa mazano akasiyana, uye roorano imwe neimwe yakasiyana, saka kutsvaga mutambo kwakakosha.
Mupi wezano rakanaka wekuroora anozove neruzivo mukubatsira vakaroorana kuburikidza nenyaya dzavo, uye ivo vanozoziva matekinoroji akasiyana kana nzira dzinogona kushandiswa nemazvo.
Kune akawanda marudzi akasiyana eakaroora kurapa matekinoroji / nzira / nzira. Kudzidza nezve chimwe nechimwe chazvo chinogona kubatsira apo iwe unofamba kuburikidza nehurongwa hwevakaroora.
Heano mamwe acho dzakasiyana mhando dzevakaroora kurapwa uye mhando dzehunyanzvi hwekupa mazano kune vekuroora:
1. Zvemumoyo zvinotarisana nevakaroora maitiro ekurapa
Iyi nzira yekurapa yakagadziriswa naDr Susan Susan naLes Greenberg. Seizvo zita rinoratidza, manzwiro anoita basa rakakosha pano.
Iyo inoshanda chaizvo uye inoshandiswa pasi rese. Zvinonyanya kubatsira kana kushushikana kuri chikamu chenyaya yehukama.
Maitiro acho anoshandisa dzidziso yekubatanidza, kana pfungwa yekuti sevanhu tinoda kusungwa pamwechete. Asi nyaya dzinogona kusimuka uye kutenderera kuita negativity.
Rudzi urwu rwe Vakaroora kurapa maitiro inobatsira vakwanyina kukurira iwo manzwiro akashata uye kusimbisa chisungo chavo.
2. Yakanaka psychology kurapa kwevakaroora
Pakati petsinga yemanzwiro, iyi nzira yekurapa yevakaroora inotarisana nemanzwiro akanaka. Chaizvoizvo, kune vamwe, iko shanduko huru mumaonero, iyo inogona kushandura pfungwa nemaitiro, izvo zvinogona kugadzirisa hukama.
Mune yakanaka psychology, iwe unodzidza kunakidzwa nemufaro sezvazvinoitika uye tarisa pamufaro panguva yacho. Izvi zvinobatsira vakaroorana kuti vaone nguva dzinofadza dzavanadzo parizvino, uyezve vanogona kuvaka pane izvo.
Kunyora mumagazini uye kuigovana nachiremba chinhu chakakosha cheiyi nzira.
3. Maitiro eGottman
Nemakore makumi matatu kumashure kwayo, vazhinji vanofunga kuti yakazviratidza pachayo senzira inoshanda yekupa mazano kune vakaroora. Kana iwe newawakaroorana naye muchinzwa kunyatsoomarara uye musingaite sekunge munobvumirana, iyi inogona kunge iri nzira yakanaka yehukama hwenyu.
Iyi nzira yevakaroora yekurapa inokubatsira kunzwisisana sewe kutaurirana zvakadzikama.
Iyo inoshandisa chimwe chinhu chinonzi "mamamepu erudo" chinova chinhu chaunovaka. Zvinokubatsirai imi vaviri kudzidza nezve mumwe nemumwe paunowana zvinhu zvinovashungurudza, kuvaita kuti vafare, nezvimwe.
Pakazara, iyo nzira yeGottman inotarisana nekugadzirisa kupokana, nekuvimbika pamwoyo payo.
4. Kuroora-kwakavakirwa pavakaroorana uye kupanana mazano
Kana iwe uri chikamu cheboka rezvitendero, ona kuti ndedzipi mhando dzekupa mazano dzinowanikwa kuburikidza nekereke yako. Sezvo chinamato chako chiri chinhu chikuru muwanano yako, rudzi urwu rwekupa mazano runogona kuratidza kuti runobatsira iwe.
Iwe unogona zvakare kunzwa wakasununguka mune iyi mhando yekumisikidza, iyo inogona kubatsira kuseta danho rekupora.
Maitiro anosiyana, asi kazhinji anonamata-based therapy kunevakaroora anodana pazvinhu zvemweya zvaungatotenda uye unorarama kuitira kukubatsira kugadzirisa nyaya.
5. Kuraira wega
Kana mumwe wevakaroora asingakwanise kana kuda kuita kurapwa kwevakaroora, saka mudiwa anokwanisa uye anokwanisa anofanirwa kufunga kuzviitira ega. Murapi anogona kubatsira mumwe wako kushanda kuburikidza nenyaya pamagumo avo.
Zviripachena, kana mumwe wacho asingade kugadzirisa nyaya yacho, saka hukama hungatadze kuenderera kumberi.
Nekudaro, mukuita kwevamwe kuenda kunopihwa mazano vega, dzimwe nguva mumwe wacho anononoka kudziya kuzano uye ozobatana newavakaroorana naye pakurapwa kwevakaroora.
6. Kurapa kwekurondedzera
Rondedzero zvinoreva nyaya, uye chaizvo icho chikamu cheiyi nzira yevaviri kurapwa. Iwe uchataurira nyaya uye ugadzire "nhoroondo" yezviri kuitika. Asi ipapo, iwe uchashanda pamwe chete kunyora zvakare zvisingafadzi zvikamu zveiyo nyaya.
Chinhu chakanaka nezve izvi nzira yekurapa kwevaviri ndizvo zvinobatsira vaviri vacho kuzvipatsanura kubva kunyaya, vachiziva kuti nyaya yacho haikutsanangure sevanhu.
Izvo zvakare zvinodzidzisa kuti nyaya inoshanduka. Imi mose munogona kunyora zvakare ramangwana renyu nyaya pamwe chete.
7. Imago hukama kurapa
Yakagadziridzwa naHarville Hendrix naHelen Lakelly Hunt, iyi mhando yekurapa inotarisa zvakanyanya pane zvemweya uye zvehunhu maitiro.
Imago ndiro izwi rechiLatin rinoreva "mufananidzo," uye mhando iyi yekurapa inoedza kubatsira vakaroorana kuti vazive mashandiro anoita uropi hwavo uye kuona nzira dzavanorarama vasingazivi.
Chaizvoizvo, iyi nzira yekurapa yevakaroora inoti isu tinosarudza vadyidzani vanogona kuporesa izvo zvisipo kubva paudiki hwedu, uye iwo maronda acho achadzokororwa newedu.
Mune ino nzira yevaviri yekurapa, vaviri dzidza kushanda pamwe uye kutaurirana kuburikidza nenyaya.
8. Psychodynamic nzira
Rudzi urwu rwekurapa runonyanya kubatsira kana vadyidzani vakaita nenzira dzisina musoro, idzo dzinofungidzirwa kuti dzakazvarwa nezviitiko zvehupenyu uye zviitiko muhudiki.
Semuenzaniso, kana kushungurudzwa kwaive chikamu chekare chemunhu, zvinogona kukonzera godo kunyangwe pasina chikonzero chazvo.
Mune mhando iyi yekurapa, chipangamazano anokubatsira iwe kutarisa pamudzi wenyaya, iyo dzimwe nguva isingazivi uye iri dambudziko remunhu kana vaviri.
Ivo vanozobva vakubatsira iwe kuona iwo chaiwo maonero ezvakaitika zvakapfuura zviri kuumba zvazvino maitiro.
9. Kunzwisisa kuraira
Yakagadziridzwa naBill Doherty, kuYunivhesiti yeMinnesota, urwu rudzi rwekupangwa mazano rwunonyanya kune vakaroorana uko mumwe murume kana murume akatsamira pakurambana uye mumwe wacho asiri.
Iyi nzira yevakaroora yekurapa inovabatsira kuti vazive izvo zvinoda munhu mumwe nemumwe, uye kana hukama hwacho huchigona. Panzvimbo pekugadzirisa nyaya, zvinotarisa kuti kugadzirisa kunogoneka here. Zviri kazhinji nzira pfupi yenguva.
Kurapa kwekuroora ndiyo yakanaka sarudzo kune avo vakaroorana vari kutsvaga kugadzirisa misiyano yavo nerubatsiro rwemupi wezano akadzidziswa.
Kune nzira dzakasiyana dzekurapa dzevakaroora, nzira, uye nzira yacho inoenderana nemupi wezano reroorano pamwe nenyaya dziri kuitika muhukama hwevaviri ava.
Ndosaka zvichikosha nguva dzose kusarudza murume akanaka anokupa mazano pakuroora kana kuroorwa.