Zvemukati
- Borderline hunhu kusagadzikana
- Ndiri kudanana nemumwe munhu ane BPD
- Ukama hwehukama hweBPD
- 1. Chinokonzera
- 2. Mukuramba
- 3. Kutya nekusahadzika
- 4. Kusabatana
- 5. Kudzokorora kutenderera - chinokonzeresa
- Kupona yeBPD hukama hwehukama
Unotsanangura sei hukama hune chepfu? Zviri apo kana munhu wauinaye azere nekusagadzikana, godo kana kupomerwa zvisina hwaro? Ko kana munhu waunoda aine chakasarudzika mamiriro seBPD, rudo rwako rungasundira kure kusvika papi nemuganhu wehunhu kusagadzikana kwehukama hwehukama?
Uye, unoita sei kuti urarame nedambudziko remumwe wako?
Borderline hunhu kusagadzikana
Avo vanga vari akawanikwa aine BPD kana borderline hunhu kusagadzikana kunogara kuri kurwa hondo. Vanogara vaine kukwirira kwematambudziko uye hasha kuti naivowo havagoni kutsanangura. Vanogona kugumbuka nezviito zvevamwe vanhu, mazwi, uye rarama mukutya nguva dzose. Iko kutya kwekudzokorora pfungwa dzekupfuura kunorwadza, kutya kusiiwa, uye kumwe kutya uko kunopedzisira kwavanetsa.
Kune vanhu vazhinji vane dambudziko iri, tanga kuratidza zviratidzo sevachiri kuyaruka uye zvinoenderana nharaunda yavo, zvinogona kuwedzera kana kuvandudza muhupenyu hwavo hwevakuru. BPD uye hukama hwakabatana zvakanyanya nekuti tese tine hukama, ngazvive zvemhuri, shamwari, uye nemumwe wako.
Iyo chikamu chakaomesesa yekuve nehukama nemunhu ane BPD ndizvo zvaungaite chengetedza hukama hwakanaka. Pane izvo zvatinodaidza kuti muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana hukama hukama kutenderera uye izvi ndozvatinoti iko kutenderera kwehukama kunotenderera padambudziko remunhu uye mabatiro avanoita kubatana.
Iyo muenzaniso kune avo vane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana uye hukama asi isu zvakare tinofanirwa kuyeuka kuti haisi mhosva yavo uye ivo havana kuzvikonzera.
Ndiri kudanana nemumwe munhu ane BPD
Vanhu vane ruzivo rwekufambidzana nemumwe munhu neBPD vanogona kuzvitsanangura se Roller-coaster mhando yehukama nekuda kwemuganhu wehunhu kusagadzikana hukama hukama asi hazvigoneke kuita kuti ishande.
Kuda mumwe munhu ane BPD zvinogona kudaro zvakaoma pakutanga, nyonganyonga kunyangwe asi kungofanana nechero imwe mhando yerudo uye hukama, ichiripo runako.
Kuda mumwe munhu ane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana kunogona kutaridzika kunge sarudzo yakangwara asi isu tese tinoziva kuti hatigone kudzora rudo uye watinodanana naye. Kujairirana nedambudziko zvirokwazvo batsira chero munhu ndiani muhukama nemumwe munhu anotambura neBPD.
Iyo nhamba inoratidza kuti muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana mune vakadzi ungasiyana nevarume maererano nemhedzisiro muhukama. Zvidzidzo zvakawana kuti vakadzi vane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana hukama vane mikana mikuru yekuve nehukama-hwepfupi hukama uye nekudaro mikana yekubata pamuviri inotarisirwa.
Munhu wega wega ane BPD ane matambudziko akasiyana ekukunda uye zviri kwatiri, iye akasarudza kuva navo kuvabatsira kuti vapfuure muhondo dzavo asi kazhinji nguva, isu tinozviwanawo takanamatira muhukama hwehukama hweBPD.
Ukama hwehukama hweBPD
Kana ino inguva yekutanga kuti iwe unzwe nezve borderline hunhu kusagadzikana kwehukama kutenderera, saka iyi ndiyo mukana wako wekujairana nayo.
Kudanana nemumwe munhu ine hunhu hwemuganhu uwane mamwe emapatani pazasi asi havasi vese vanozodaro. Nekudaro, zviri kwatiri kuti tive takasvinura mukubatsira vatinoshanda navo.
1. Chinokonzera
Vanhu vane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana vanoda hukama ziva pavanenge vachikuvadza. Ivo zvakanyanya mukati kugadzirisa manzwiro avo, muchokwadi, zvishoma zvakawandisa zvekuti chero chiitiko chinokonzeresa kurwadziwa nekukuvara, chinova chinotyisa.
Zvinosuruvarisa, izvi hazvidziviriki, isu tese tinokuvara asi sezvo BPD nehukama zvakabatana, chiitiko chinotyisa ichi chinogona kukonzeresa kutenderera kwemunhu ane BPD.
2. Mukuramba
Vanhu vazhinji vakakomberedza vanorwara neBPD usanyatsonzwisisa chii chirikuitika. Kune vamwe, ivo vangangoti ivo vari kungo nyanyisa kana zvese zviri zvakajairika uye zvichingodaro.
Asi pachinzvimbo chekubatsira munhu ane BPD, ndizvo chaizvo anovamanikidza kuti vavewo mukuramba yemanzwiro avo echokwadi anodzosera mukutsamwa uye nekuwedzera kurwadziwa.
3. Kutya nekusahadzika
Kana a munhu ane BPD anorwadziwa uye panzvimbo pekugadzirisa nyaya, yavo vamwe vanogona chete siya hukama kana kuwedzera mamiriro acho ezvinhu nezviito zvinokuvadza kana mazwi.
Izvi zvinogona kutungamira kune yemuganhu hunhu kusagadzikana kudanana hukama kusvika kumagumo, zvinosuruvarisa, kwete nerunyararo nzira.
4. Kusabatana
Chero ani anokuvadzwa nerudo vane maitiro akasiyana, chii chimwe kana munhu aine BPD?
Iwe unogona here kufungidzira kukura kwekutambudzika kwavari kunzwa uko kunozopedzisira kwasvika kune aya matanho ehukama hweBPD apo munhu wacho anongoda kuzvibvisa kwaari kubva kune wese munhu?
Kurambwa, kusiiwa, uye kurasikirwa nekuvimba ndizvo zvinoshungurudza chero munhu kunyanya kumunhu neBPD.
Mhedzisiro yeiyi yemuganho hunhu kusagadzikana hukama hwehukama inogona kubva pakushushikana, hasha, chigumbu, kutsiva, uye zvinosuwisa kunyangwe kuzvikuvadza. Kuvhiringidzika, kurwadziwa, uye hasha zvese zvakanyanyisa kumunhu uyu uye zvinogona kutungamira kuzviito zvatinotya tese.
5. Kudzokorora kutenderera - chinokonzeresa
Icho chikonzero nei izvi zvinonzi kutenderera nekuda kwerudo runogara ruchiwana nzira yarwo.
Kunyangwe munhu ave kure zvakadii, rudo nehukama zvichagara zviripo. Zvishoma nezvishoma kuvimba zvakare, zvishoma nezvishoma kudzidza kuda uye kunyemwerera zvakare ndizvo kumwe kutanga kweakaganhurika hunhu kusagadzikana hukama.
Rudo mwenje mutsva wetariro yemufaro.
Asi chii chinoitika kana paine chimwe chiitiko chinorwadza? Ipapo, kutenderera kunotanga zvakare.
Kupona yeBPD hukama hwehukama
Unogona kuzviona iwe uchigara muhukama nemunhu ane BPD? Iwe unogona here kuzvifungidzira iwe pachako uchityora moyo wemunhu nekuda kwekuti iye ane BPD?
Mamiriro akaoma, kwete chete kune uyo anotambura muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana hukama hukama asiwo newe.
Uchagara here kana kuti uchaenda? Mhinduro ichiri kutsamira pauri asi chakaringana ndiko kuedza kwako kutanga. Edza nepaunogona napo kuvepo pamunhu, mushure mezvose, unomuda, handiti?
- Kutanga nekuzvipira chaiko - Bvumiranai pamatemu uye muve nekurumidziro yekuzvipira.
- Tsvaga akakodzera Therapist iwe nemumwe wako - Tora wongororo, tsvaga zvirongwa zvekurapa, uye chero chinhu chakaratidzirwa kubatsira.
- Tarisa - Tarisa pakutarisira BPD uye kutora mishonga pakurapa zvimwe zvezviratidzo.
- Kuchipatara - Mune chero chiitiko chekuzvikuvadza kana kuda kuzviuraya, kugara muchipatara kungangodiwa.
- Tsigiro kubva kumhuri neshamwari inokurudzirwawo - Kuvadzidzisa nehurwere kunobatsira zvakanyanya.
Vanhu vane BPD vakangofanana newe neni. Muchokwadi, ivo vakanaka, vane tsitsi, uye vane rudo uye vanokwanisa kudzora yavo yemuganhu hunhu kusagadzikana hukama hukama, ivo chete kufanira kuva nemumwe munhu ku ivai navo.