Zvemukati
Kune huwandu hwakawanda hwakatenderedza kubuda MUBVUNZO munzira yemashiripiti. Kupfeka zvipfeko zvakanaka, kusarudza nzvimbo chaiyo, uye kunyangwe kuhaya nyanzvi yekutora mifananidzo kutora yakajeka mifananidzo yemufaro unofadza (netariro!).
Ehezve, mutori wemifananidzo anofanirwa kuramba akavanda kusvika panguva yakanaka.
"Ndeipi nziyo yerudo inoita kuti ugare uchigunun'una?"
Nepo rondedzero yemubvunzo muhombe 'Uchandiroora here?' inotonga iwo mabloid, kune runyararo seti yekutsvagisa kwakakosha mibvunzo yekubvunza mumwe wako muhukama, iyo yakanga yatora iyo yepamoyo yerudo nedutu makore apfuura.
Tichinongedzera kutsvagurudzo yakaitwa nevanoongorora nezvepfungwa Arthur Aron nechikwata, chakakurumbira nemunyori wenhau weNew York Times Mandy Len Catron muna2015, yaive nzira chaiyo yekudanana.
Izvo zvakakonzerwa kubva kubvunzurudzo yekuona rudo sezviito uye kutsvaga yakakwana marabhoritari marongero kuti ibudirire mukati.
Tsvagurudzo iyi yakagadzira chiitiko chinoshanda chinowedzera mukana wemunhu wekudanana nemumwe wake nekupindura seti yemibvunzo yehukama iyo ichaita kuti hupenyu hwako hwerudo huve nani.
Ichi chinyorwa chichatarisa iwo akakosha mabasa ayo hunyanzvi hwekuda kubvunza mibvunzo uye kuteerera kwakadzika kunogona kutamba mukudanana kubatana. Uyezve, sei kuda kuziva uye mibvunzo inomutsa hukama.
"Ndeipi toy yekutamba yakakosha yawave uchifarira kubvira ipapo?"
Kuedza: Kukurukurirana kunoenda
Kuedza kwakaitwa nevezvepfungwa dzepfungwa dzakataurwa pamusoro apa kwakaedza nzira dzakawanda dzekukonzera marasha erudo pakati pevasingazive.
Yakaratidza kuti maminetsi makumi mana nemashanu ekugovana mhinduro kumibvunzo yakateedzana, iyo zvishoma nezvishoma yakazove yepedyo zvakasikwa, inotungamira mukunzwa kwakazara kwekutarisa kwakanaka kweumwe wako uye kunzwa kwekuswedera padyo navo.
Mhedziso kubva mukuyedza idzi dzinopa nzwisiso muhuneti yezvakasiyana izvo zvinoita basa rakasimba mukubatana kwerudo.
Kugovana chiitiko, kuburitsa nyaya dzepedyo nemaonero, uye kuita kuti mumwe munhu apindure mibvunzo yepedyo zvechokwadi, ndiwo mashoma ezvivakwa zvinoonekwa.
"Ndechipi chinhu chakashinga chawakaita mukutarisana nekushorwa / kusawirirana?"
Psychology yekubvunza
Mibvunzo, zviripo, ndeye mashiripiti. Izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi pakuferefeta, kusaremekedza kana kutaura kwekutuka kwakavanzwa semibvunzo.Mhando yemibvunzo yakanyorwa mukuyedza, iyo inoswededza padhuze, inoda kuziva mune zvakasikwa. Ngatizvidaidzei mibvunzo yekuda kuziva kubva zvino.
Hunhu hukuru hukuru hwemibvunzo yakabvunzwa ne kuda kuziva muhukama hwepabonde kuvhurika kwekuteerera uye kunzwa kwekugamuchirwa.
Kuvhurika kwekuteerera kunosimudzirwa nehunhu uye hwepedyo hunhu hwemibvunzo. Mhinduro idzi dzinogadzira bhiriji rekugovana pakati pevamwe. Panguva iyoyo, mubvunzo nemhinduro zvinova girazi rechokwadi.
Kunzwa kwekugamuchirwa kunosimbiswa nekutarisana kwemaziso kwakachengetedzwa nemumwe wako, zvishoma kutsamira mukati sezvo mhinduro dzichigovaniswa, uye mafungiro asiri ekutonga. Izvi zvinogadzira nzvimbo inogona kubata kusagadzikana kwese.
Iyo kusagadzikana kunogona kugadzira nzvimbo yekuwedzera kutaura kwechokwadi uye sarudzo dzakashinga (Ona Cognitive Psychology: Kubatanidza Pfungwa, Tsvagiridzo, uye Chiitiko cheZuva Nezuva).
Nhanho yekupedzisira muchiitwa ichi yaive yekutarisa kumeso emumwe wako kwemaminetsi maviri kana mana. Iyi nhanho yakatsanangurwa seinonzwa, yakasimba, inotyisa, isina njodzi uye inoshanda zvakanyanya mukugadzira zvisungo.
Charm navo padyo nemibvunzo
Unogona kubvunza- Saka chii? Sezvo iwe wanga usiri chikamu chekuyedza uye ukasawana vako venguva refu vadyidzani munzvimbo ye laboratori, kuziva nezve mibvunzo yekuda kuziva uye kuteerera kwakadzika kunobatsira sei yako yerudo kesi? Uye sei vanhu vanoda kuziva vane hukama hwakanaka?
Kune humwe hunyanzvi kubva mukuyedza uhu hunogona kuiswa zvakananga muhupenyu kuumba zvisungo zvakadzika mune zvakajairika uye zvekudanana zvisungo kunyanya. Aya maonero zvakare anomisikidza zvikonzero zvepamusoro zvekubvunza mibvunzo uye kugara uchida kuziva muhukama.
Hedzino dzimwe nzira dzekunakidza mumwe wako nemibvunzo:
- Panzvimbo dzekufambidzana, saTinder, simudza mutambo wako nemibvunzo yekuda kuziva pane iyo inofinha 'WYD?'
- Vabatsiri vanofanira kuita tsika yekusangobata pane rimwe zuva asi zvakare kubvunza inonakidza uye inofungidzira mibvunzo. Mhinduro dzavo dzichakubatsira iwe kuwana zvitsva zvehunhu hwavo uye nekuvandudza hukama hwako.
- Tsvaga rondedzero yemibvunzo inoshandiswa mukuyedza, kunyanya kana uri kuwana nguva yakaoma muhukama hwako, uyezve uwane hukama hwepedyo huri kupera.
- Shandisa zuva rako rekuyeuka kana pamwe chete-nguva muchizivana zvakanyanya kuburikidza nendangariro uye nekugovana nyaya pane mazuva anodhura uye hotera suite getaways.
"Kana tava nemakore makumi mapfumbamwe uye taneta nerondedzero yezvipo zvekutsvaga, ndeupi wangu mhando wauchanyanya kukoshesa?"
Mukupedzisa, mibvunzo yekuda kuziva inogadzira ambiance yekuvimba, kutamba, uye mufaro. Vanogadzira nzira yekuti nyaya dzekare dzigovewa uye nyowani dziitwe.