Zvemukati
- 1. Pakutanga, pakange pasina mireza mitsvuku
- 2. Akave asina hanya, akatsamwa, uye anozvidzivirira
- 3. Akataura kuti kupokana kwavo kwakakonzerwa ne "kurwara nepfungwa" kwake
- 4. Akasimudza yake
izwi ndokumutuka - 5. Kuve girazi
- Mireza tsvuku yekutarisa kana iwe uchifunga kuti unogona kunge uri muhukama neSociopath
- Therapy yemasocopaths uye avo vakaroora kune murume wepamoyo
Hukama hwako nemumwe wako hwashanduka here kusvika padanho rausingazive kuti ndiani?
Iwe unowanzo shamisika - "Murume wangu is a sociopath?" kana uri kutsvaga zviratidzo zvekuti wakaroora sociopath?
Wobva waverenga kuti uone kuti chii chinoitika kana mukadzi achinge aroorwa nemurume wepamoyo uye chii chaangaite mumamiriro akadaro.
Edza zvakare: Ndiri Kudanana neSociopath Quiz
Maka aive murume anoshamisa kwazvo KellyAnne akange ambosangana naye - anodadisa, akataura zvakajeka, airatidzika kunge aiziva zvaaida asati amboita, kudanana nechikanganiso, mudiwa anodakadza- naye akanzwa zvinhu zvaakange asati amboita kare, uye padanho rega rega.
Panzvimbo yekufambidzana kwavakasangana, Maka akazvitsanangura semunhu akazvipira, akavimbika, akavimbika, anofarira hunyanzvi netsika, anodanana nehasha, uye akatsiga mune zvemari. Akataura nezve ake mashandiro semunhu aifamba achikwira nhongonya dzakasiyana siyana uye akashanyira nyika zhinji.
Kuna KellyAnne, aive iye chimiro chese chinhu chaakange afungidzira nezvake kubvira paakange ave nemakore makumi maviri.
1. Pakutanga, pakange pasina mireza mitsvuku
Mushure memwedzi mitanhatu yekufambidzana, Maka akapinda mukumukurudzira uye hukama hwacho hwakawedzera sezvaakaramba achiteerera, achifunga, achidanana uye achidanana.
Akaenda kubasa saka aive aenda mazuva mashoma pasvondo. Paaive asiri pabasa rekushandira, ainzwa kunge asina chinhu, akasurukirwa zvinyoronyoro, uye akamushuvira: mushure mezvose, aive munhu asingagumi wekutaura kunonakidza, kuseka, wit uye ruzivo rwepanyika. Nekuti aimuona mazuva mashoma pavhiki, zuva rega rega raaive ari kumba kwaive kumhanyiswa kweendorphin.
Mwedzi mumwe mushure mekufamba, akataura kuti vabatanidze mari yavo. Kunyangwe iye akagadzira zvakawanda pasi pake, akafunga izvi zvisina basa uye akabva abvuma.
Mwedzi mina mushure mekugara, akamukumbira kuti amuroore. Akafara uye akabva ati hongu-aive awana mumwe wake wemweya, mumwe munhu akamutora, akamusekesa, mazano ake, rudo rwake rwezvisikwa, hunyanzvi uye zviitiko zvetsika. Akatenda uye akaudza shamwari dzake kuti "anotarisa mumweya wangu," uye shamwari dzake dzakamutsigira mushure mekusangana naye.
Pakaratidzika kuve pasina mitsvuku mitsvuku: shamwari dzake dzakaona izvo zvaakaona.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Unogona Sociopaths Rudo
2. Akave asina hanya, akatsamwa, uye anozvidzivirira
Mwedzi mishoma mushure mekuchata, zvisinei, zvishoma nezvishoma asi zvakadzikama, akawana chokwadi chake chichichinja.
Kutonhora kwakasiyana uye chinhambwe zvakange zvagara naMark uye akatanga kuona kuti aive ari ega, asingatani kutsamwa, uye anozvidzivirira. Akamuona achiwedzera uye nekunyengera kuita nemaune zvekuti akazviwana achibvunza maonero ake, uye ndangariro yezviitiko nemanzwiro.
Ainzwa sekunge aigara achimanikidzwa kubvunza zvisikwa zvake, izvo zvaaivimba nazvo muhupenyu hwake hwese, zvichimuita kuti asavimbe nekutonga kwake, kufunga, kufunga uye pfungwa. Asi kunyangwe panguva iyoyo hazvina kumbobvira zvauya mupfungwa dzake - "Ndiye here munhu anongoita kuti hupenyu hwangu hunetseke?"
Akatsanangura zviitiko apo aigona kunwa kudhakwa (chimwe chinhu chaakange asati amboita asati aroora) uye aipinda muhasha, achirovera makabhati ekicheni uye nekuparadza zvirimwa zvake zvakagadzirwa mumba. Aibva amupa mhosva, achimuudza kuti yaive mhosva yake aive akatsamwa.
Kana iye chete akadzidza kumubata zvirinani, kumuteerera, kuita sekukumbira kwake, zvinhu zvingave zviri nani, iye aigona kusheedzera kutaura. Zvinokonzeresa zvaive zvisingafungidzike, semafungiro ake, uye kazhinji aisazoziva kuti ndiani angave achifamba pamusuwo pakupera kwezuva- murume ane rudo ane rudo waakasangana naye pamusoro pegore rapfuura, kana murume akatsamwa, anokakavara uye ane hasha uyo zvino ndakagara naye.
Aigara achitya manheru aanenge ari pamba, kunyanya nekuda kwe "kunyarara" kwaaizofanira kutenderera kwemazuva kana paine kukakavadzana nezuro wacho.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Sociopath vs Psychopath
3. Akataura kuti kupokana kwavo kwakakonzerwa ne "kurwara nepfungwa" kwake
Kana akakumbira rudo, aimuramba obva amuudza kuti ainyanya kuda uye kuomerera. Nharo uye kusawirirana kwavo, maererano naMark, zvakakonzerwa chete nekusafunga kwake, kurwara kwepfungwa, "kupenga" uye zvisirizvo, uye maitiro ake akagadzirirwa kuzvidzivirira nekuti anga asiri mundangariro dzake chaidzo uye aifanira kumuchengeta muchokwadi.
Sezvo hukama hwacho hwakadzikira, akatanga kubvunza chokwadi chake uye kunyangwe pfungwa dzake.
Imwe yemaitiro aMarko aishungurudza zvikuru yaive yekushandisa nzira yekupikisa, kwaaizomira nehasha kuti KellyAnne anga asiri kurangarira zviitiko nenzira chaiyo apa chokwadi kuyeuka kwake kwaive kwakakwana.
Imwe nzira yakajairika inosanganisira Mariko achivharira kana kutsausa musoro wenyaya wehurukuro nekubvunza chokwadi chezvaaifunga uye manzwiro ake, achiendesa hurukuro yacho kunofungidzirwa kushayikwa kwechokwadi kwechiitiko chake zvichipesana nekugadzirisa nyaya iripano.
4. Akasimudza yake
Mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, akamurondedzera seari kunyepedzera kukanganwa zvinhu zvakaitika, kana kutyora zvivimbiso zvaakange amuitira uye achiramba kuti akange ambovimbisa zvakadaro.
Kana iye akabvunza kana aive pachinhanho mukukurukurirana, aigona kuita zvechisimba, kusimudza izwi rake, kumudaidza mazita (semuenzaniso, kudzikisira, kupusa, kupenga, kunyengera, kurwara nepfungwa) uye kumutuka. Dzimwe nguva aipota achikurukura, achimupandukira zvekuti nyaya chaiyo yainge yakavharika uye chero chaive chikonzero chekupokana yaive mhosva yake.
Muchikamu akarondedzera kunzwa kunetseka nemamoods ake, akafukidzwa nehukuru hwehunhu hwake uye hunhu hunodzora, akashandisirwa mukubvunza chokwadi chake uye kutonga, uye kurasikirwa nekuzvifunga kwake.
Akatsanangura hukama nematare maviri emitemo:
imwe yakagadzirirwa iye uye imwe yake.
Aizoenda kunze kwevhiki (kazhinji asina kumuudza)
Aida mvumo yekuenda kunodya neshamwari yake yepamwoyo.
Aitarisa kuburikidza naye mameseji uye kumubvunza iye kana paive nemeseji kubva kumurume; zvisinei, foni yake yaive yakachengetedzwa ne password uye yaigara iinaye.
Manzwiro ake akadzingwa, akaderedzwa senge aive asina basa; ainzwa sekunge aive asina basa uye ainzwa kudzikisirwa nekuti aigara achipomerwa mhosva yekunyepedzera, anoshaiwa uye asina musoro.
Kubva pamaonero emari, akange arega kuisa mari muakaundi yavo yekubatana uyezve aive asingatarise mari achishandisa kubhadhara kadhi rechikwereti, mabhiri uye rendi.
Kana akabvunzwa nezvemari aigona kutsamwisa hurukuro kuti asaita sei kuti imba igare yakachena, yaida kuita mari yakawanda, kana kuti kutenga kwaakaita zvishongo "zvinodhura" mwedzi wapfuura.
Sezvo hasha dzake dzaiwedzera, ainwa zvakanyanyisa, uye aimupa mhosva yeku "kusanganisa hari" uye kuyedza kutanga kurwa nekubvunza mibvunzo nezve zvemari. Akamupa mhosva yekunwa kwake, achitaura kuti akamwira kuzvirapa nekuti akamupengesa "nekusaziva" nekushaiwa kwake kusingaperi uye anofanirwa kuve akarurama.
Akatanga kuzvibvunza kuti akange akaroorwa nemurume wesocopath here.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Sociopath vs Narcissist
5. Kuve girazi
Wakange wave mutambo wakashata wekudzora pfungwa, kutyisidzira uye kudheerera. Akanga ari pawn pabhodhi rake rechesi, sezvaakatsanangura, uye aigara achifamba "pamazai emazai". Akange asisanzwe kudiwa, akakosha, kuchengetwa kana kuchengetedzeka, uye murume akatora hupenyu hwake semunhu anorwisa knight akange apinda mune ine hutsinye, inodzvinyirira uye inouraya cad.
Iye akange akaroora kune murume wepamoyo.
MaSociopaths akaoma kuona uye mazhinji anogona kuchengetedza ekutanga mazango, rudo, kutarisisa uye kuda kwemwedzi.
Vanohwanda munzvimbo dzisina kusimba, dzisingaone dzemanzwiro edu nepfungwa dzakanaka, vachitora mukana wekurasikirwa nekuona kwemanzwiro nenzira dzisingafungidzirwe. Vanohwanda pakati pemadziro epfungwa nemoyo yedu, nenzira dzisingaonekwe uye dzisinganyatsoonekwe, zvishoma nezvishoma, uye dzimwe nguva nenzira, tichigadzira zvikamu mukati medu.
Hukama nehukama hwevanhu hunogona kuve hwumwe hweanonyanya kuvhiringidza, kushungurudza uye chokwadi chinonetsa zviitiko zvinozowanwa nevazhinji vavakaroorana navo.
Runako rwepamusoro, huchenjeri, kuzvishingisa uye kushinga kweiyo sociopath, mumazuva ekutanga ekuvaziva, manyuko ekufara uye kutarisira kune vamwe vavo.
Iyi nhete yemunhu wavo inovhara pasi pechisimba. Nekuchengetedza chiitiko chepamusoro chepamusoro mune adrenaline inokwidzwa kufamba, vanovanza kusadzama kwakadzama kwekuvimbika kwechokwadi, hana, kutendeseka, uye kuzvidemba.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Maitiro Ekutarisa Sociopath
Mireza tsvuku yekutarisa kana iwe uchifunga kuti unogona kunge uri muhukama neSociopath
Kune mamwe maratidziro ehukama hwehukama hwevanhu kana zviratidzo zvemurume wemurume / mukadzi wepamoyo waunogona kutsvaga uye nzira dzekunzwisisa maitiro ekuita nemurume wesocopath:
- Sociopaths masters ekunyengera, kukanganisa uye kubata. Nyaya hadziwanzo kuva neidi hwechokwadi, uye avo vavanozivisa kuti havawanzoongorora - asi vane hunyanzvi hwekugadzira nyaya yakatendeka, kunyangwe pavanomanikidzwa kuita ipapo ipapo.
- Kutevera gakava, sociopath haigare ichipa ruregerero rwekuzvidemba kana kuratidza kuzvidemba. Pane kudaro, basa rekugadzirisa hukama huchave pauri. Kana iwe wakaroora kune sociopath murume, ako ekugadzirisa edza anowanzo kuve anorambidzwa kana kushandiswa kupesana newe sechiratidzo chekuti ivo vari pachokwadi.
- Kazhinji murume kana mukadzi anofambidzana naye anotenda zvake zvekunyepedzera, uye anoenda kure kure kuratidza pfungwa yavo, kunyangwe isina hwaro. Kudiwa kwavo kwekuratidza kuti manyepo avo ichokwadi kunouya nemutengo weako chaiye uye hutano hwepfungwa. Chaizvoizvo, nekufamba kwenguva, saNovacaine's anesthetic mhedzisiro inodzikisira chokwadi chako, zvirevo zvavo zvisinganzwisisike uye zvirevo zvinoita kuti iwe ubvunze kusagadzikana kwako.
- Ivo vanowanzo shandisa hasha kudzora hurukuro.
- Ivo vane hunyanzvi hwekutsauka. Nharo kana hurukuro pamusoro pehunhu hunokuvadza pane yavo hunogona kukonzeresa kukanganisa nekukurumidza vachishandisa chero huwandu hwenhema hwekunyepedzera, senge:
- Kukwidza kudombo. kudzikisira nharo dzako sekusina musoro kana kutopusa nekuti vangoti ndizvo.
- Kukwidza kusaziva: kana iwe wakaroora kune murume wepamoyo, chero chirevo chavanotaura chinofanira kunge chiri chechokwadi nekuti hachigone kuratidzwa kuti ndechenhema, uye chero chirevo chavanoti ndechenhema chinofanira kunge chiri chenhema nekuti hapana humbowo hwekuti ichokwadi.
- Kwidza pfungwa kune njere: kana vasingakwanisi kuona pfungwa yako seyechokwadi kana yechokwadi, saka inofanira kunge iri yenhema.
- Kupokana nekudzokorora: kana nharo kubva kare ikamuka zvakare, vanozoiti haisisina basa nekuti inyaya yekare uye yakarohwa kusvika pakufa. Nharo yekare, nekuti ndeyechinyakare, uye kunyangwe isina kugadziriswa, haina kukosha izvozvi nekuti zvaive zvakapfuura. Nekudaro, kana ivo vakasimudza nyaya kubva kare, zvinongoerekana zvavepo pasina mubvunzo.
- Kupokana kubva kunyarara: kana iwe wakaroora kumurume wepamoyo, chero kusavapo kweuchapupu kutsigira kuda kwako kana chinzvimbo zvinoreva kuti hazvina hwaro. Kana iwe ukapa humbowo, zvinowanzoreva kuti iyo "zvibodzwa" zvekupokana zvinofanirwa kufambiswa navo kuitira kuti vachengetedze kutonga.
- Ad hominem nharo: nharo yako, kunyangwe ikavakirwa muchokwadi uye ichiratidzika kunge ichokwadi, haina basa nekuti unopenga, hauna musoro, unonzwa zvakanyanya, nezvimwe.
- Ergo decedo: nekuti unoshamwaridzana nemunhu waasingadi kana kubata pfungwa dzaanoramba (semuenzaniso, uri republican kana demokrasi, uri weboka kana chitendero), nharo dzako hadzina hwaro uye saka hadzikodzeri nhaurirano chaiyo.
- Kuchinja mutoro: kana iwe wakaroora kune sociopath murume kana mukadzi, iwe unofanirwa kuratidza zvese zvirevo kana zvirevo, asi hazvisi izvo. Kupfuurirazve, kunyangwe iwe ukaratidza kuve nechokwadi kwechikumbiro chako, chinodzikiswa kuburikidza nekushandisa kumwe kunyengera kunonzwisisika.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Maitiro Ekuita NeSociopath
Kuve "rudo-bhomba" chirevo chinowanzo shandiswa nevakadzi vanove vanobatana nevemagariro evanhu kana kana mukadzi akaroorwa kune murume wepamoyo, zvirinani mumazuva ekutanga.
Izwi iri rinoratidzira runako rwekunze, charisma uye kushuvira izvo zvinowanzo kukurira kwavo kwakajairika pfungwa yekungwarira vachigara nemurume wesocopath murume kana mukomana. Nekudaro, iye chaiye munhu anokonzeresa kunze kwekushangazhika ndiye asina hana, kunyara / mhosva kana kuzvidemba, uye akaganhurirwa manzwiro echokwadi.
Hupenyu hwe sociopath inhema dzakagadzirwa zvakanaka uye dzakadzivirirwa zvakasimba, nyaya dzavo dzinogombedzera dzinongova nhema, uye unozoguma wave pawn pane chessboard yehupenyu hwavo.
Asi kana vaine dambudziko rakadai nemumwe wavo, nei masociopaths achiroora?
Pfungwa yesocialopath nemuchato haifanire kuenda pamwechete asi ivo vachiroora. Izvi zvinodaro nekuti ivo vanoda kuti mumwe munhu azvipire kwavari, munhu wavanogona kupomera zvese. Ivo zvakare vanoroora kuti vagadzire yakanaka chimiro chavo.
Therapy yemasocopaths uye avo vakaroora kune murume wepamoyo
Chii chaunofanira kuita kana iwe wakaroora kune sociopath murume? Zvinosuruvarisa, kune vakawanda sociopaths, kurapa haisi sarudzo - kuzviongorora, kuzvipira uye kuzvitarisira, hunhu hwakakosha hwechiitiko chekurapa chinobudirira, hadzisi chikamu cheiyo reposociopath.
Kurapa kwevaviri kunogona kukonzera shanduko shomanana, asi izvi zvinowanzoita zvenguva pfupi uye kusaremekedza-zvinogara kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana "kubvisa kupisa" kwemurume wepamoyo.
Zvakafanana Kuverenga: Inogona here Sociopath Shanduko
Izvi hazvireve kuti hapana zvachose tariro yekuchinja mune sociopath; vamwe vanozoita, dzimwe nguva, vanoita shanduko dzinoderedza kushungurudzika pahukama hwavo. Asi iyo isingawanzo sociopath iyo inogona kutsigira shanduko dzakadaro pamusoro pemwedzi kana makore.