Zvemukati
- Unofanira kudanana kwenguva yakareba sei usati waroora
- Iyo nguva yekufambidzana usati waroora yakakosha here?
- Inguvai chaiyo yekuroora
Iwe zvirokwazvo une rombo rakanaka kana iwe uri kunzwa kuti iwe pakupedzisira wawana munhu waunoda kuroora.
Une nguva yakareba sei uri pamwe chete? Mave muri mese kwevhiki mbiri kana kuti zvimwe mave kugara pamwe kwemakore mana kana kupfuura? Iwe unotenda mune imwe nguva furemu yekuziva kuti yakareba sei kudanana usati waroora?
Unofanira kudanana kwenguva yakareba sei usati waroora
Pane uyu mubvunzo unosangana nevanhu vazhinji uye ndewokuti "unofanira kufambidzana kwenguva yakareba sei usati waroora?"
Chokwadi iwe wakanzwa nezvemitemo yekufambidzana uye zvinonyatso sanganisira iyo yepakati nguva usati wadana kufonerana zvakare mushure mekutanga zuva uye avhareji nguva yekufambidzana usati wazvipira uye usakanganwe nezve avhareji kufambidzana nguva usati waroora.
Kunzwa kunge uri kurarama hupenyu hwako zvichibva pamirairo?
Chaizvoizvo ichokwadi kana iwe uri kutarisisa kuona kuti iwe unoenda nenhamba zvichibva pahuwandu. Aya manhamba kana gwara rinogona kubatsira iwe nemumwe wako kuyera zvinhu nemazvo. Vamwe vanoti pane mutemo wemakore maviri, vamwe vanoti chero bedzi iwe uchiziva kuti mumwe wako ndiye "mumwe" saka hapana chikonzero chekumirira.
Ngatione zvinotaurwa nenyanzvi. Heano mamwe akakosha zviyeuchidzo pamusoro penguva yakareba sei kufambidzana usati waroora.
Maererano naMadeleine A. Fugère, Ph.D., munyori weThe Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships, “Handifungi kuti pane nguva yakakwana, sezvo munhu uye mamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana zvishoma. Uye kukura kunoenderana. ”
"Hapana nguva yakakodzera yekufambidzana usati waroora," anodaro Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., chiremba wezvepfungwa uye mupepeti mukuru.
“Ukama hwakanaka chaizvo hahusi hwenguva. Kana vaviri vakaroora kwemakore makumi mashanu, asi vanga vachishungurudzika uye vachiitirana zvakaipa mukati memakore iwayo, imuchato wakanaka here? Kunyangwe akaronga michato inoshanda dzimwe nguva, uye havana kufambidzana zvachose. Mubvunzo ndouyu: Unomuda zvechokwadi munhu uyu here? ” anowedzera.
Chokwadi ndechekuti; hapana sei nekukurumidza sei kukurumidza kuroora. Panogona kuve nemifungo mizhinji pamusoro pazvo kana pamwe misoro yakati wandei pamusoro pezvingaitika kana iwe ukasarudza kusunga banga racho nekukurumidza.
Ivhareji yekufambidzana nguva usati wazvipira ichaenderana newe neumwe wako uye kunyanya pazvose, mukugadzirira kwako kuvimbisana uye kuroora. Vaviri vaviri vakasiyana uye nenzira yakanaka kwazvo.
Inguva yakadii kufambidzana usati waroora uye avhareji nguva yekufambidzana usati watsvaga inogona kutariswa segwara asi zvaisambo fanirwa kukumisa iwe kubva mukutsvaka uye kuroora.
Iyo nguva yekufambidzana usati waroora yakakosha here?
Vanhu vanotora nguva yakareba sei vasati varoora kana kureba kwechikamu chekufambidzana hakunyatso kushanda kune wese munhu sezvo vaviri vaviri vakasiyana uye zvinhu zvakakomberedza musoro uyu hazvina kujeka kuisa yakatarwa nhamba kana mutemo.
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, chiremba wepfungwa ane chiremba, murapi uye munyori anoratidza kuti gore rimwe chete kana maviri ekufambidzana kazhinji inguva yakanaka nguva usati waenda padanho rinotevera kungave kubatanidzwa kana kuroora pachako.
Kunyange zvakadaro, avhareji urefu hwehukama usati wazvipira kana kuroora unongoita senge unotungamira vaviri nekuda kwezvikonzero zvinotevera:
- Nguva inodiwa kuti uzive mumwe wako. Isu tese tinogona kudonha musoro-pamusoro-zvitsitsinho murudo asi izvi zvinogona zvakare kuve zvenguva pfupi.
- Yakaringana nguva yekufambidzana inochengetedza manzwiro evaviri vacho kune mumwe nemumwe uye kune ita shuwa kuti hazvikure kubva mu "simba" yezvavanonzwa.
- Mushure mekukomberedza iyo 26 mwedzi ye "yerudo chikamu" kune vatsva vakaroorana kunouya simba kurwira kana chikamu chekupokana chehukama hwavo. Kana vaviri vacho vakaramba izvi uye vakauya vakasimba, icho chivimbo chiri nani chekuti vakagadzirira chaizvo.
- Vamwe vangangoda edzai kugara pamwe chete kutanga iyo ine zvayakanakira nezvayakaipira.
- Vakaroora vanofambidzana kwenguva yakareba vane mikana yakawanda yekusangana nemakakatanwa muhukama hwavo, zvinoitika. Izvi zvichaedza kuti vanozvigona sei.
- Kufambidzana kwenguva yakareba kunogona zvakare kukupa iwe yakawanda nguva yekunyatso gadzirira yako yewanano hupenyu. Kufunga zvekuroora zvakasiyana nekuroora chaiko uye usakanganwe basa rekuve murume nemukadzi.
Inguvai chaiyo yekuroora
Chikonzero chega nei paine mazano akawanda ekuti “unofanira kumirira kuroora” kwenguva yakareba zvakadii nekuti zvine chinangwa chekuti vaviri vacho vave "vakagadzirira" vasati vaenderera mberi nekuroora. Aya matipi uye zvinongedzo zvine chinangwa chekudzivirira kurambana.
Kuziva kuti inguvai chaiyo yekuroora zvinoenderana nevakaroorana. Kune vakaroorana vanotova nechokwadi chekuti vapedza kufambidzana nemuchato uye vari kunyatso kuva nechokwadi chekuti vanoda kugadzirisa.
Vamwe vanoti kuroora kunoenderana nezera, makore awakange uri pamwe chete, uye vamwe vanoti zvese zvinoenderana nekunzwa ura hwako.
Usamanikidzwa nevanhu ivavo vari kukuudza kuti watova pazera chairo, kuti unofanirwa kuva nemhuri yako wega, kana kunyatsoita kuti iwe nemumwe wako muonekwe zvakakwana sei pamwe chete.
Roora kana kuroorwa nekuti wagadzirira kwete nekuda kwenhamba kana maonero evamwe vanhu. Saka, iwe unofanirwa kumirira kwenguva yakareba sei kuti uroore?
Mhinduro apa iri nyore - hapana mashiripiti nguva yakatarwa yekuti inguva yakareba sei kudanana usati waroora. Izvo hazvishande nenzira iyoyo. Unogona kuirevera segwara asi kwete sekutonga.
Izvo hazvina basa kana mave muri pamwe kwevhiki mbiri, mwedzi mishanu kana kunyangwe makore mashanu. Kuziva kuti kudanana kwenguva yakareba sei usati waroora kunogona kubatsira asi hazvifanirwe kukutadzisa iwe kana mumwe wako kuda kuroora chero makagadzirira nekuti ndiwo muyedzo chaiwo pano. Chero bedzi iwe wakazvipira, wakura, wakatsiga, uye kupfuura zvese wakagadzirira kuroora saka unofanirwa kutevedzera moyo wako.