Zvemukati
- 1. Unonzwa kunzwisiswa nemunhu uyu
- 2. Unobuda munzira yako kumunhu uyu
- 3. Iwe unogovana zvehukama ruzivo nemumwe munhu
- 4. Iwe wakasiyana kana mumwe wako aripo
- 5. Kushushikana pabonde, fungidziro, uye kumutsa
- 6. Iwe enzanisa shamwari yako nyowani newaunodanana naye
- 7. Kufungidzira ramangwana rinogona kuitika pamwe chete
- 8. Unovanzira shamwari yako hushamwari hwako
- 9. Unoda kuti vakufarire
- 10. Unovapfekera
- Matipi ekudzosazve kubva pane zvekushushikana kune ari kubiridzira mukadzi
- Kutsungirira kana mumwe wako asina kutendeka
- Tora woenda nazvo
Chii chinonzi kushamwaridzana kana kushambadzira pamoyo?
Kusatendeseka kwepamoyo muwanano kunoshanda munzira dzisingaoneki. Vamwe vanotozeza kana kubiridzira kwepamoyo kuchikonzera kusavimbika muwanano.
Maererano nenhamba, 22% yevarume uye 13% yevakadzi vanga vasina kutendeka kune vavanodanana navo. Inotyisa 60% yemichato inotambura nekurohwa kwekusatendeseka pamusoro pehupenyu hwese hwemuchato.
Chinyorwa chino chinyura muzviratidzo zvekubiridzira zvepamoyo, uye matipi ekuti ungararame sei kubiridzira kwepamoyo kune anenge atengeswa.
Tisati tanyura-mukati muzviratidzo zvehukama hwepamoyo, heino pfuti pakupindura kusatendeseka kwepamoyo.
- Zvinotanga seshamwari mbiri dzichizivana
- Pakarepo kutaura kwebasa kunoshanduka kuita hurukuro yakadzama yega
- Usati wazviziva, watanga kufungidzira nezvekuti kudanana kana kuita bonde kungave kwakaita sei nemunhu asiri wako.
Zvinogona kutaridzika kunge zvisina mhosva kugovana zvaunofunga nemanzwiro ako nemunhu wausiri kudanana naye.
Mushure mezvose, zvingaite sei kuita kana iwe usiri kubiridzira panyama?
Chokwadi ndechekuti, kudanana nemumwe munhu asiri wawakaroorana naye kunogona kukonzera manzwiro ekudanana. Unoda kuziva kana usiri kutanga nemaune nemumwe munhu?
Heano gumi zviratidzo zvekusatendeseka kwepamoyo
1. Unonzwa kunzwisiswa nemunhu uyu
Nyaya zhinji dzepfungwa dzinotanga kana iwe usisiri kunzwa kuzadzikiswa kana kukosheswa nemumwe wako.
Chimwe chezviratidzo zvinooneka zvekubiridzira mupfungwa ndechekuti iwe unonzwa haugone kutaura newawakaroorana naye zvakare, kana kuti ivo havana hanya nezvaunoda, zvinangwa, uye nemanzwiro. Nezvo zvinouya pakarepo kudiwa kwekutenda uye kunzwisisa kumwe kunhu.
Iwe unotanga kugovana zvinhu nemunhu mutsva uyu, Angave waunoshanda naye, shamwari, kana aimbova mudiwa, uye unzwe kunzwisiswa nemunhu uyu nenzira yausingatenderi nemumwe wako.
2. Unobuda munzira yako kumunhu uyu
Iwe unozviwana here uchironga zvekare purogiramu yako kuti ubatsire munhu uyu kubuda, kunyangwe munzira diki-diki, kwausingatombo buda kuenda kuchitoro chekona kune mukomana wako kana musikana pasina ziso rinotenderera?
Ndicho chimwe chezviratidzo zvinopenya zvehukama hwepamoyo. Unobuda munzira yako kune uyu mutsva shamwari.
Kuita kwako kuenda kunopedza nguva nemunhu asiri wawakaroorana naye kunogona kuva chiratidzo chokuti pane chimwe chinhu chikuru kune ushamwari hwenyu kupfuura zvawaifunga pakutanga.
3. Iwe unogovana zvehukama ruzivo nemumwe munhu
Kana kukurukurirana pamusoro peshamwari kana basa kwangoerekana kwashanduka kuita hurukuro nezvehukama hwepabonde, bonde, uye nezvimwe zvakadzama nyaya iwe unogona kunge uine kusavimbika kwepamoyo pamaoko ako.
Izvo hazvisi zvekuti haufanire kubvumidzwa kugovera zvakavanzika zvikamu zvehupenyu hwako nemumwe munhu, ndezve chisungo chaunogadzira iwe paunovhura zvakadzama kune mumwe munhu.
Chimwe chezviratidzo zvekubiridzira murume kana mukadzi ndechekuti mumwe wenyu ane zvabvumira kuti kuva vanotambura kune mumwe munhu uye chimwe chinhu mupfungwa dzako chinokonzeresa chinamato nekuda kwayo.
4. Iwe wakasiyana kana mumwe wako aripo
Kunyangwe iwe usinga reve kuita, iwe unganzwa chimwe chinhu chinoshanduka kana mumwe wako aripedyo neuyu mumwe munhu. Iwe haugone kana kuita senge iwe pachako kana kuti ungazove hyper-kuziva kwekuti iwe wakamira padyo sei neshamwari yako.
Iwe zvakare haungade kuve nerudo nemumwe wako padhuze nemunhu uyu. Kana iwe uchinzwa kugunun'una mumaitiro ako kana mumwe wako neshamwari yako vakarovera, unogona kunge uchidanana nemanzwiro.
5. Kushushikana pabonde, fungidziro, uye kumutsa
Chimwe chiratidzo chiri pachena chekusatendeseka kwepamoyo ndechekuti hausi chete wakasungirirwa pamoyo, asi zvakare kuva nekufungidzira zvepabonde pamusoro pemunhu uyu.
Kugara pakufungidzira zvebonde nezveumwe munhu kunogona kutungamira kuzviito zvinokuvadza kana iwe watove muhukama hwakazvipira.
Kana kubata netsaona kweminwe yako kana maoko achidarika mukoridho kuchimutsa ruzha rwekumuka mukubatana kwako kwezuva nezuva neuyu mumwe munhu unogona kunge uri munzira kuenda kune yakazara chiitiko.
6. Iwe enzanisa shamwari yako nyowani newaunodanana naye
Kana iwe uri chaizvo muhukama hunokanganisa hukama iwe unogona kuwana uri kuenzanisa uyu munhu newako waunodanana naye, kana zvinopesana.
Iwe unofunga nezve hunhu hwemunhu uyu hwaunoshuvira kuti mumwe wako ave nahwo, kana kucherechedza hunhu hunogumbura mune mumwe wako hwausingazombofungidzira kuita kwemunhu mutsva uyu.
Kuenzanisa mumwe wako nekupwanya kwako hakuna hutano uye kusarongeka kune ese mapato anobatanidzwa.
7. Kufungidzira ramangwana rinogona kuitika pamwe chete
Sokunge kufungidzira uchiita bonde kwanga kusiri kwakaipa zvakakwana, unotanga kugara pane zvazvingave kuita mukudanana nemunhu uyu. Wakafunga nezvekuti mungazowirirana here kana imi mese musina kuroora.
Unogona kunge wakatoratidzira ramangwana rako pamwechete kamwe kana kaviri. Kufunga nezvehukama hwepabonde nemumwe munhu asiri wawakaroorana naye chiratidzo chechokwadi chekuti iwe urikupinda mune yemanzwiro.
8. Unovanzira shamwari yako hushamwari hwako
Zviri muropa kuti ude imwe nhanho yekuvanzika, kunyangwe iwe uchidanana, asi nyatso funga kuti uri kuvanza zvakadii kubva kune waunodanana naye.
Chimwe chiratidzo chekusatendeseka kwepamoyo ndechekuti riini uri kuvanzira hushamwari hwako kubva kune mumwe wako, kana kuti uchideredza zvimwe zvinhu zvacho.
Kana iwe uchivanza zvinyorwa, kufambidzana kwenhau, kana kufonerwa nemunhu uyu kunyangwe kana vasina mhosva muchimiro panogona kunge paine chimwe chinhu nezve kuchinjana kwako icho mumwe wako angave asina kugadzikana nacho.
9. Unoda kuti vakufarire
Vanhu zvakasununguka vanoda kudiwa. Asi ita unoenda kunze kwako kuita zvinhu zvakanaka zvemunhu mutsva uyu muhupenyu hwako? Iwe unofunga nezvenzira dzekuita kuti vanyemwere, kuseka, kana kubatana newe?
Kana kudiwa kwekutenderwa nemumwe munhu chisiri chinhu chakajairika pahunhu hwako, unogona kunge uchidanana nemumwe munhu asiri wako.
10. Unovapfekera
Kana iwe uchiziva kuti uri kuzoona uyu mumwe munhu, unoenda kunze kwako kupfeka?
Kana iwe uchikweverwa kune mumwe munhu, pamoyo kana panyama, iwe zvakasikwa unoda kuwana kukwezva kwavo mukudzoka.
Kana iwe uchikwira pamusoro uye nekupfuura kana zvasvika pakuonekwa kwako uye nguva dzose uchida kutarisisa zvaunogona kutenderedza munhu uyu, unogona kuve uchibatanidzwa mukusatendeseka kwepamoyo kuri pamucheto wekubiridzira kwemuviri.
Kusatendeseka kwepamoyo kunogona kutadza kuona uye kukonzera murwi wedambudziko muhukama hwako.
Kana iwe uchinzwa urikusangana nezvakawanda zvezviratidzo zvekusatendeseka kwepamoyo, ungangoda kufunga nezvekuti uri kufara sei muhukama hwako hwazvino uye tora matanho akakodzera ekugumisa zvinhu nyaya yako yemweya isati yashanduka kuita yenyama kana kufunga nezvekuvandudza hukama hwako kana imi vaviri muchida kudaro.
Uyezve tarisa:
Matipi ekudzosazve kubva pane zvekushushikana kune ari kubiridzira mukadzi
Kune avo vari kutsvaga nzira dzinobatsira kuti vadzokere panzira, heano mamwe mazano anobatsira.
- Ita nhamburiko yekuziva kusiyanisa rudo rwechokwadi kubva kune ine rudo, dutu remhepo
- Ziva kuti iwe uchazozvidavirira muwanano yako nekuda kwezviito zvako
- Iyo yakanakisa yekutenderedza nyaya ndeye chengetedza mari muhukama hwako hwemhuri
- Zvibvunze pachako izvo mumwe munhu ari kupa uye tsvaga nzira dzekuita zvakafanana mune yako imba
- Kana iwe uchinzwisisa kuti imba yako yapera, gadzirisa izvo kutanga iwe kuti uzive kuti magumo akauya nekuda kwezvimwe zvinhu, kwete nyaya yako
- Nyora manzwiro ako kukurira kushungurudzika uye kuwana maonero
- Tsvaga rutsigiro mukushanda nehunyanzvi uyo anogona kukubatsira kuti uwane kujeka uye simba rekuita sarudzo dzakakumirira.
Kutsungirira kana mumwe wako asina kutendeka
- Tora nguva yekuchema usati wafunga kumisa muchato
- Tarisira kunyanyisa kwemamiriro ekuchinja uye kusanzwisisika kusanganiswa kwemanzwiro
- Usatendere kushuva kwekutsiva
- Tarisa pane kuzvitarisira
- Usabiridzirwe mukutenda kuti ndiwe unokonzeresa nyaya yacho
- Usazvipinze nekuzvinzwira tsitsi
- Tsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune anovimbika, ane ruzivo ruzivo kugadzirisa manzwiro ekunyara, uye kunyadziswa
- Sezvo kunetseka kwepashure-kwekutambudzika zvichitevera kusatendeseka kwakajairika, tarisa pane kurarama zuva rimwe chete panguva uye kutsvaga rubatsiro
- Zvitenderedze nevanhu vanokutsigira uye kana zvichidikanwa shanda nenyanzvi
Tora woenda nazvo
Sezvo iwe paunoshanda kuburikidza neye posvo nyaya yapashure, iwe unowana chiono chakajeka chekuti ungafambire mberi sei uye utore danho rehungwaru rekugara pamwe chete kana kuenda nenzira dzako dzakasiyana.