Zvemukati
- Kana vakaroorana vakamirira, vanokwidziridza hukama hwavo hwehukama
- Kana iwe uchida kuti mumwe wako avewo wako BFF, mira kuti uite zvepabonde
- Hukama hwako nevatezvara vako vemberi zviri nani
- Iwe haufanire kunetseka nezve nhumbu kana maSTD
- Zvepamberi pemba muchato inzira yakanaka yekudzidza
- Izvo zvakataurwa nevamwe vakadzi nezve kumirira kusvika muwanano:
Kumirira kusvikira muchato kuti uite zvepabonde kunoratidzika kunge kusingafarirwe mumamiriro ezvinhu anhasi ehukama hwepachena, zvishuwo, uye hukama hwepabonde hwakanangana. Chokwadi, avo vanomirira vari mune vashoma vashoma: 89.1% yevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde vasati varoora, vachisiya chete gumi muzana yevakadzi vasingaite zvepabonde pavanosvika paaritari. "Mhandara" uye "Yakachena" inonzwika semazwi kubva kuma1950, kunze kwekunge achishandiswa nezvimwe zvitendero zvinoramba zvichikoshesa nyika idzodzo.
Ngatidzokerei kumashure kubva kuhunhu hwazvino, idzo dzinotiudza kuti isu ndinofanira kuva nekurara nemunhu musati maroorana kuitira kuti "tigowana zvatiri kuwana", uye titarise zvimwe zvakanakira kumirira kutaura kuti "ndinozviita" tisati tarara nemudikani.
Kana vakaroorana vakamirira, vanokwidziridza hukama hwavo hwehukama
Kugadzira rudo inzira yekutaurirana, zvirokwazvo. Uye munharaunda yedu yemazuva ano, zvinoita sechikamu chinogamuchirwa chekufambidzana, kunyangwe pakutanga muhukama hwekufambidzana. Asi kana hukama hukanyanya kutarisisa panyama, zvinoitika nekuti kunakidzwa pabonde kunova chinangwa, izvo zvinowanzotora chigaro chekumashure kudzidza dzimwe nzira dzekubatana nemumwe wako.
Vanhu vanomirira kusvika pakuroora vanoona kuti hukama hwavo hwepfungwa nehungwaru hunokudziridzwa kutanga-tanga muhukama pasina muyedzo wepabonde.
Mazuva avo vanopedza kutaura, kugovana, uye kuvaka rumwe rudzi rwehukama uhwo, kana wangoroora uye uchiita zvepabonde, zvinoita kuti hukama hwepedyo huwedzere uye hugutse. Ivo vanoziva zvechokwadi munhu wavari kuita rudo kwaari, sezvo ivo vakave vaine yakakwana nguva yekugadzira yakasimba kushushikana kwepamoyo navo.
Kana iwe uchida kuti mumwe wako avewo wako BFF, mira kuti uite zvepabonde
Pasina chinhu chepabonde muhukama hwako hwepamberi pekuroora, une nguva yekukudziridza hushamwari hwakapfuma, huzere uye hune chinangwa newauchazoroora.
Uchida kana kuti kwete, kusangana pabonde kunogona kushanda sekukanganisa uye kuita chinhu chakakoshesa chiitiko chako chekufambidzana.
Unogona kupedzisa kushandisa yakawanda nguva yakatwasuka pane kutwasuka uye uine mukana mushoma kune iwo marefu, hurukuro dzakadzama dzinobatsira mukuvaka hushamwari hwechokwadi uye hwakachena.
Hukama hwako nevatezvara vako vemberi zviri nani
Kunyangwe mune dzino nguva dzazvino uno, vatezvara vako venguva yemberi vanogona kunge vaine maitiro asingafadzi kana ivo vachiziva mwana wavo, kunyangwe ari munhu mukuru, anoita zvepabonde. Kuchengetedza bonde kusvikira wanano ikusunungure kubva pane izvi, uye iwe unogona kupedza nguva nevabereki vako vezvemari vasina kana mhosva kana kufanira kuvanzira zvinhu.
Nguva dzako pamwe chete dzinenge dzisina chero rima rinotaridzika kana mibvunzo isingafadzi kubva kwavari.
Kubata kusangana pabonde kusvika muchato wakusunungura kubva mukunyangira, kana kuuya nezvikonzero zvekuti iwe wanga uripi uye zvawanga uchiita. Unogona kunakirwa natezvara vako vemunguva yemberi nehana yakachena.
Iwe haufanire kunetseka nezve nhumbu kana maSTD
Nekuti iwe nemumwe wako mabvumirana kumirira kusvikira muchato muvate pamwe chete, haufanire kuzvinetsa nekuzvarwa (kana kutadza kwayo), nhumbu kuongororwa, zvirwere zvepabonde uye chero bvunzo kune izvo, uye a dzakasiyana dzedzimwe nyaya dzisingadiwe dzinounzwa nebonde musati maroorana.
Zvepamberi pemba muchato inzira yakanaka yekudzidza
Vakaroorana vanomirira kusvikira muchato kuti vaite zvepabonde vanobvuma kune imwe nzvimbo yekugumburisa uye kusagadzikana pavanosvika pakuita chiito.
Asi nekuti ivo vanodzidza miviri yemumwe nemumwe muchirevo chekuti vakaita sarudzo yekuziva kukudza, chero kusagadzikana, pfungwa yekunyara kana kunyangwe kusaziva nezve izvo zvinoenda uko kusiri kwekutadza.
Iyo yekudzidzira curve kune mumwe nemumwe miviri uye mafaro chinhu chakanaka icho, uye ivo vanoitevera iyo mune yakachengeteka uye nzvimbo yakachengeteka yehukama hwavo hwehukama. Saka ko kana kekutanga isiri rwendo kuenda kuparadhiso? Ivo vane hupenyu hwavo hwese kuti vazive izvi ... uye kazhinji zvinongotora zvishoma kuyedza kuti uwane hang yacho yacho.
Izvo zvakataurwa nevamwe vakadzi nezve kumirira kusvika muwanano:
“Kazhinji kazhinji, nhasi varovani vanopinda muukama hwevatano vasingazezi. Asi kana zvasvika kune rudzii rwehukama hwauri kuda pakupedzisira, ini ndaida kuve nechokwadi chekuti murume wangu anondida tese ini, zvandinoda, maitiro, zvese, nezvimwe.
Ini ndinofunga kuti kana iwe uchifambidzana nemumwe munhu kwenguva yakakwana kuti usvike pakuziva chaiye iwe, kuti pamwe pamwe zvinogona kureba kana zvisiri kuchengetedza hukama zvachose. Vazhinji munhu wese anokura kuda bonde, haufanire "kuyedza mukomana kunze" usati wafunga kumuroora. Iva nechokwadi chekuti wawana munhu chaiye uye chero nemhando yake yekugadzira rudo, ichave iri chaiyo. ” -Rebecca, ane makore makumi maviri nematatu.
“Hongu, ndakamirira muchato ndisati ndarara nemurume wangu. Kwandiri zvaive zvakakosha kuti ndichengete humhandara hwemurume wandaida nemoyo wangu wese, uye kuita bonde pahusiku hwangu hwemuchato kekutanga yaive bhonasi. Kwaive kukudzwa kumupa humhandara hwangu. Ndakaroora ndine makore 23. Proud to have kept my virginity for marriage. Yakanga iri sarudzo yangu nemaune, nemaune. ” -Christina, ane makore makumi maviri nemashanu.
“Bonde rwendo rwekudzidza rwemunhu wese, uye kana imi mose muchiita semhandara, zvakatonyanya kukosha nekuti muri kudzidza pamwe chete! Kwandiri, bonde harisiwo hwaro hwemuchato wakanaka, kunyange iri bhenefiti yakanaka. ” –Carmen, 27.