Zvemukati
- 1. Vari kugadzirisa zvishoma pane zvavanokodzera
- 2. Ivo vanoshandisa kumirira uye kutarisira senzira yekugadzirisa
- 3. Havatore mutoro wega wega kumufaro wavo
- 4. Vanotarisa pane zvakashata zvemamiriro avo ezvinhu
- 5. Vanopa zvikonzero zvakawanda
Zvinogona kuve zvinonyengera kutsanangura zvazvinoreva kusafara. Kana zvasvika kune hukama, 'imba isina mufaro' inogona kureva zvinhu zvakawanda zvakasiyana.
Semuenzaniso, muwanano isina rudo, haagutsikane nemabatiro aari kuitwa nemurume pane vanhu, kana haafarire matauriro anoita murume wake kushamwari kana mhuri, kana ichi, kana icho .... tinogona kuenda on kwemaawa.
Tingave tisingazive zvinorehwa nemuchato usina mufaro, asi tinogona kuzvinzwa.
Isu tese taive nehumwe hukama hwakatiita kuti tirege kufara, asi takazviona zvakaoma kuzvipedza, uye tinogona kunge takagara mu "kusafara, kusava nerudo" kwemwedzi, makore, makumi emakore, kana kuti zvimwe tichiri muhukama hwakadai. .
Saka, iwe unowanzo tenderera kuzvibvunza wega- imba yangu yapera here?
Zvinoitika sei kuti iwe wakabatirirwa mumuchato usina mufaro asi usingakwanise kusiya? Kana iwe ukaona zviratidzo kuti imba yako yapera, sei uchiramba wakadzokera shure?
Isu tese tine zvikonzero zvedu, sekutya kusurukirwa, kufinhwa, kana kufunga kuti bonde rakanaka, kana kuti zvimwe tajairira munhu iyeye, nezvimwe.
Hazvina mhosva kuti chikonzero chevaviri chekuva muhukama husina mufaro ndechei, mamwe maitiro akajairika anoita kuti hukama husina mufaro hufanane nehumwe.
Ngatimbofungai nezvehumwe hunhu hwakagovaniswa hwemuchato usina mufaro.
1. Vari kugadzirisa zvishoma pane zvavanokodzera
Pakutanga, vakaroorana vanoedza kufuratira, kukanganwa, kana kuisa pasi petipeti zvinhu zvese zvidiki zvinounza kusagadzikana pakati pavo izvo pakupedzisira zvinotungamira kune mamiriro ekusafara.
Chaizvoizvo izvo zvidiki zvinhu, nenguva, zvinova zvakakura zvinoshungurudza uye zvinokwanisa kuburitsa huwandu hwakawanda hwehasha nekushungurudzika.
Ndiwo marongero anoita vaviri vacho mune chimwe chinhu chinoita kuti vadikani vanzwe kusakosheswa, kusakosheswa, kutukwa, kana kugara vachitya izvo mumwe wavo angaite zvinotevera kuvashungurudza kana kuvakuvadza.
Nekudaro, kune vamwe vedu, aya maratidziro emuchato asina mufaro haana kukwana kuti vabude kana kuvandudza zvakanyanya hukama.
Mukati mukati, tinoshanda kubva pakutenda kwekusaziva kuti hatina kukosha, hatidi, kuti hatikodzeri kutariswa nekutendwa. Ndiko kupedzisira kwatinoita kushivirira "status quo" yehukama hwedu husina mufaro.
2. Ivo vanoshandisa kumirira uye kutarisira senzira yekugadzirisa
Nekufamba kwenguva, matambudziko emuchato anosaina, pasina kupindira kwakakodzera uye kugadzirisa, kazhinji anozove akaomarara uye akaomarara.
Pakupedzisira, vaviri vacho vanoenda munguva dzekushushikana, kushushikana, kunzwa kwekuzvipa mhosva, kunyeya, kusurukirwa, nezvimwewo, kana zvikaitika kuti vakaregeredza zviratidzo zvinooneka zvemuchato uri kutadza.
Panzvimbo pekuzvidavirira uye kutora matanho akakosha ekudzosa hukama huri kunetsa, varoorani vasina mufaro vanowanzo gara vachifunga kuti kushayikwa kwekugutsikana haisi mhosva yavo uye kuti nekufamba kwenguva mamiriro ezvinhu anozoshanduka uye zvinhu zvizoita sezvavakaita pakutanga ( apo vaviri vacho vachiri kudanana kwazvo).
3. Havatore mutoro wega wega kumufaro wavo
Hazvingave zvakanaka, kana kururamisa, kutaura kuti vasina mufaro vakaroorana vari kuzviita ivo vanonzwisa tsitsi nechinangwa. Hapana munhu angade kusarudza nemaune kuve 'asingafare muwanano', kana kutambura mhedzisiro yemhuri inokundikana.
Zvichida ivo havana, zvakadaro, vanonzwisisa izvo chinangwa chekuve muhukama hakuiti kuti mumwe afare asi kuchinjanisa iwo wega mufaro uyo mumwe nemumwe watove nawo.
Vabatsiri vanofanira kugona kuda, kutarisira, kukoshesa, kukudza, uye kuzviremekedza ivo vasati vapa rudo rusina mvumo kune mumwe wavo.
4. Vanotarisa pane zvakashata zvemamiriro avo ezvinhu
Zviri nyore kunamira mukufunga zvakanyanya nezve zvakashata mhedzisiro yehukama husina mufaro uye kukanganwa zvese nezvezvakakosha zvidzidzo zvehupenyu zvainopa. Zviratidzo zvehukama hwakundikana ndiwo mukana unoshamisa wekusimudzira-wega uye wega kukura.
Vakaroorana vanobudirira kazhinji ndivo vakakwanisa kuchinja maonero avo uye kugadzirisa hupenyu hwavo hwerudo kubva pakuva chipingamupinyi kumufaro wavo kuenda pakuva hunyanzvi hwekuunza mufaro muhupenyu..
Nenzira iyi ivo vanokwanisa kukoshesa kurwisana zvakare uye vanogona kuita zvakanakisa kubva panguva dzakaipisisa pamwechete.
5. Vanopa zvikonzero zvakawanda
Panzvimbo pekubvuma kuti vakanganisa, vanyepa kana kunyima chimwe chinhu kubva kune mumwe nemumwe, vaviri muwanano isina mufaro vanowanzo shandura kuita zvikonzero. Ivo vanoregeredza vanoregeredza zviratidzo zvekuroora mune dambudziko, kana muchato wafa.
Iyi "tsika" inoganhurira kugona kwekusimudzira kuvimba uye kurerukirana mukufamba kwenguva uye kunokonzeresa kuti vakaroorana vagare vasina mufaro uye vasina kubatana muhukama hwavo.
Kuva wakavhurika uye kutendeseka kunotora hushingi hwakawanda uye hazvishamise kuti vanhu vazhinji havana kugadzirira kuve panjodzi uye vanobvuma kukanganisa kwavo uye kusakwana muhunhu.
Vazhinji vedu tinoshaya kutendeseka kana zvasvika pakukurukurirana kwakakomba nevadiwa vedu saka tinohwanda kuseri kwekuregererwa, nyaya, tsananguro, kana kunyangwe kukumbira ruregerero.
Pachave nenguva muhukama hupi nehupi umo vaviri vanoita tsika uye maitiro ari kukuvadza hukama uye kuunza kusahadzika nematambudziko. Hapana nyaya yerudo isingatambure.
Tarisa vhidhiyo iyi kuti ikubatsire kuziva zvikonzero zvitanhatu zvepamusoro nei imba yako ichiparara. Vhidhiyo iyi inogona kukubatsira kuti uone zviratidzo zvewanano yakaputsika uye kutora matanho akakodzera ekumutsiridza hukama hwako.
Kiyi yekuenda kumberi nekukunda "nguva dzakaoma murudo" ndeyekubvuma kuti hauna mufaro muwanano kana kuti hukama hwako hwave kufinha. Ziva zviratidzo zvekuroora kwemuchato wako, uye zvauri kuita kuti uve nekusafara.
Kana iwe uchinge wakwanisa kuziva zviratidzo zvekuroora zvapera, ita chimwe chakasiyana zvachose pane zvawanga uchiita. Kuita chinhu chimwe chete uye kutarisira mhedzisiro yakasiyana hakumbofi kwakabatsira hukama hwenyu kukura uye kubudirira nenzira yaunoda kuti ive.
Imba isina mufaro haifanire kunge iri dambudziko rekusingaperi. Kana iwe ukaita pakarepo mushure mekuona zviratidzo zvemuchato wakashata, iwe unogona kumutsidzira yako isina mufaro muchato uye kumutsidzira kutsva muhukama hwako.